OOT Guests in different hotels.

1FairMaiden · June 2013

::sigh:: Ok, so let me preface this by saying that I know it's not a big deal. I know I need to get over it. I know this is not going to ruin anything. I'm just disappointed at how this worked out.

I invited a bunch of my relatives who live in Minnesota. I live in (and my wedding is in) Virginia. I never get to see these relatives, so I was really excited for them to be with us. My FMIL is making the arrangements for the OOT guests hotel rooms (she wanted to do this because she lives in Texas and wants to do a lot of the "hosting" for the OOT people. Fine with me!) We had planned for the Minnesota guests to stay in the hotel with FI's OOT guests.

After we posted our wedding website, there was a page that said "leave a note in our guest book." Well, my long lost half-sister, who I haven't heard from in over a decade, wrote something on our page that was so sweet, I decided I wanted to invite her to the wedding. So I did. And she RSVP'd Yes. Awesome! Then she decides that she's going to come into town a few days early because we live close to DC and she wants to do some sight seeing. Ok, great! Maybe I'll get a chance to catch up with her!

Then, my Dad says "Hey, where are we all staying?" (He and my Mom divorced a long time ago, so my Dad will be an OOT Guest) I said "The Embassy that FMIL arranged." he said "Great! Let me know if I can do anything to help." I said, "Ok, thanks."

Then, like, 10 minutes later, he sends me an email that says "Well, your sister decided that she wants to stay in this other hotel close to DC, so I'm going to stay there too." and then apparently, since my sister and Dad were going to be there,all of my other relatives decided to get rooms there as well. In a hotel that's 40 miles away from the wedding.

I was actually planning on staying in the same hotel with all the OOT guests for the last few days before the wedding just so I could spend time with everyone, because I haven't seen them in years. Like I said, I know this isn't a big deal... I'm just disappointed, and kinda annoyed at the fact that it was all started because of this sister who I haven't seen in more than a decade, and I decided to invite her. Not mad that she's killing two birds with one stone by turning it into an excuse to do some sight seeing in DC - I'd probably do the same thing. I just hate that it worked out this way because I was excited to get to see everyone.

Oh well. Anyone else have something like this just not quite pan out? I know this is small potatoes... I'll still see them at the rehearsal dinner and the reception. I'll just turn it into an excuse to go to Minnesota and see them, I guess

sandrad348 · June 2013

Mine isn't exactly the same, but I spent so much time over months securing a hotel room block near the airport as my FMIL insisted she would never want to stay in the city and everyone on their side would stay in that hotel. Fine, hotel block done. It's also the holiday weekend so there are very few rooms anywhere in and around the city. In the end, everyone ended up staying in the hotel in the city and no one is staying near the airport. I felt so frustrated that I spent so much time and effort to negotiate this room block and it was all for nothing.

But like yours, it doesn't hurt anyone and all will be fine. Actually, everyone in mine is staying at or near the hotel where I am staying, which means I will see them more. That is not necessarily a good thing though.:)

pam8787 · June 2013

I can understand your disappointment and frustration.

thekorsans · June 2013

i'm from canada and getting marred in pa! all my family will be travelling from canada and my fiance's family are all over the states, literally not one family member lives in pa so 95% of our guests will be from out of town. so we decided to have our reception in the ballroom of a hotel so no one has to worry about driving anywhere! we have a huge room block set aside, everyone is staying, every single one of my family members is staying at this hotel with us! THEN i found out a couple of fiance's aunts and uncles found a better deal at a different hotel and they're going to stay there. the hotel gave us a discounted rate of $103! that's not expensive at all, and let me tell fiance's family are NOT poor. they're all well off, so i'm not sure what the deal is there but whatever, i'm over it!

what bothers me the most is ALL OF MY FRIENDS are staying at a hotel downtown (20 miles from hotel) they say it's so they can see the city, they've never been to pittsburgh, which i understand. but they're coming in friday night, then my wedding is all day saturday, and they're leaving sunday. when are they having time to do this? i'm pretty disappointed about that because i was hoping to party more in the bar of the hotel after the reception and i'm worried they'll leave right at midnight so they can get back to their hotel, but we'll see...

so i completely understand your disappointment.. it's not the end of the world and isn't keeping me up at night, but it sucks!

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