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engaged and already overwhelmed

Hi everybody! My fiancé and I got engaged on may 2. We were on vacation to Vietnam; visiting my grandma. He told me he had a present for me and asked me to come up to the room we were staying in. And then he dug around in his backpack, opening this little "secret compartment" that I hadn't noticed while packing. And he handed me the ring box to open and asked me to marry him. It was very sweet and his timing worked out well because all of my family members were coming over for dinner that night.

We got back to the USA on the 17th. And I feel like it's been a constant barrage since we got engaged. My mom has already had a fit over my Vietnamese dress. I wasn't over my jetlag yet and people were criticizing me for not having a date or venue yet! I know it's pretty a common experience but it still seems pretty crappy that people act like that.

Re: engaged and already overwhelmed

  • Ditto Lia. And congrats!
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Congrats! I just got engaged May 19th and feel the same way! I'm not sure why people think I have a date picked out immediately and I hope it's just a way to make conversation, but ugh it comes up a lot and I can't even think about it yet.

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  • Congrats on your engagement! People are (mostly) just trying to show interest and congratulate you. Just smile and tell them you're basking in it right now and will start planning soon. I'm sorry your mom has started in with the dress stuff already, though; hopefully she will take it down a notch and let you and FI take the lead.
  • Congrats! Enjoy your planning! (at your own pace)
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  • Congrats! Remember their will always be people trying to bring you down. Enjoy this happy time!
  • Thank you all for the encouragement!
  • It's scary. I've been married before and I'm still getting overwhelmed when I try to gather information about venues. I've been engaged eight months already and we still haven't set a date. People ask about it but I think they're just trying to show support and interest. It's ok to tell people that you're taking it slow because it's a bit overwhelming. Most people will probably agree that keeping things low key when you feel stress is a wise thing to do.
    "I wish yo azz all tha dopest up in yo' marriages"
  • Congrats! Take a deep breath, relax and go at your own pace
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