Still undecided if I even want to bother with a bridal party. I'm not the type of bride who expects anything from anyone so I don't really need one. I just feel like it's a headache. Every wedding party I've been in it's always been issues amongst the girls one way or another..obv the bigger the bridal party the more issues. I'd keep it small so I'm not worried about that, but here is my concern...
IF I decided to do a bridal party it would be small consisting of 3 girls. Here's my dilemma:
1- NOT close enough with either of them to be MOH. Do I really need to appoint someone this just to say I have a MOH? I don't think so but what do you think?
2- There is possibly a 4th. Fiancés brothers wife/FSIL did not have me in her wedding party. We weren't engaged yet at the time of their wedding but we were together 8 years and clearly getting engaged soon after. His brother is best man, daughter is flower girl, and son on the way would be a year old but included as well. Am I obligated to put her in? I really don't want to because of the fact she didn't include me. By all means I understand we're not close but I should've been in FOR his brother and knowing that we were getting engaged soon and I would be her FSIL, not like i'm a random new gf to the fam (then I'd completely understand). Even Future mother in law says not to put her in, that she was wrong. EVERYONE is pretty much saying I don't have to. However, being the person that I am I still feel bad. I felt stupid when I wasn't included in their wedding the day of- when his family was even shocked to see I wasn't in the bridal party. It wasn't such a nice feeling and although she did it to me, and we're not close I still feel bad obviously because I know what it feels like. What would you do?
3- better off not having one? and just leave the stress to something else & save myself. lol and just have groomsmen?