I've come across a bit of an unusual (I think it is, anyway) situation. My great-aunt, who we are all very close with, has been dating a man for about 6 months. They used to work together at a mental health facility, and reconnected after her husband passed away. Eight years ago, after my grandfather passed, my grandmother went through a serious depression and sought counseling. Her therapist was the man my aunt (my grandmother's sister-in-law) is now dating. She received counseling services from this man for over a year.
I will go ahead and say that I know I am biased against this man. I do not like some of the ideas my grandmother took away from her time with him (I am a therapist myself and recently she has shared his past diagnostic impressions with me- in my opinion, way off base). I also do not like his pushiness since he began dating my aunt. We were all very close to my uncle, who died suddenly and traumatically, and my aunt's boyfriend has been over-the-top about making it clear that they are "more than friends" at family functions. However, I know that this dislike doesn't allow me to be rude. He is still my aunt's SO, and as such, should be invited to the wedding...right? There are a few in my family who are of the opinion that he should not be invited due to his conflict of interest with my grandmother. I don't really know what to say to these people (my mom and sister) except that as a therapist I hope he would maintain professionalism regarding the confidential information he knows about my grandmother and family, and that I'd also hope he would choose not to come if he felt he had some conflict of interest.
There's really nothing else I can do about this, right? Thanks for letting me vent. It helps to type this all out sometimes when there's a confusing situation.
