I am my best friends MOH for her upcoming destination wedding. I always believed it was inappropriate/against etiqutte to have a bridal shower if you are having a destination wedding, simply because you should only be inviting people to the shower that were invited to the wedding, and in a destination weddings case the people that are coming to the wedding shouldnt be expected to also give a shower gift when theyre already spending large amounts of money to attend the wdding in the first place.
So with this frame of mind, I never intended on throwing her a shower, even aside from all the etiquette reasons, I'm not willing to spend more money on throwing a shower (especially when I think its rude in the first place) and then a shower gift when I'm already spending so much to go to the wedding, dress, shoes etc.
I assumed she knew that it wasnt proper to have a shower when you have a destination wedding, but shes been pinning lots of shower ideas to her wedding board & made comments about how "this would be cute for the shower" So, I get the impression that she is expecting one.
So my question is...am I in the right here? and if I am... what would you say to her?
Thanks in advance!