Barbeque vs. Wedding Attire

newallme · June 2013

Apologizes if this thread already exists, i attempted a search first.

My Fiance and I would like to get married in a state park, with a catered bbq during the reception. We also wanted to get fancied up. My mother is concerned about attendees get their nice clothing getting messy (we're never pretty when we're eating ribs! haha). Does anyone have any ideas about keeping everyone clean while also enjoying delicious food?
some ideas i had included:
-some time in between ceremony and reception for everyone to change into casual bbq clothing (mom is hesitant to tell out-of-towners to bring a change of clothing)
-custom bibs with our names, the date, and some sort of celebratory saying (mom/i are concerned that would be tacky)
-semi-casual dress. no jeans, but not as fancy that attendees might get mad at excessive bbq sauce on their decolletage.

thoughts? ideas?
please and thank you so much!
Nancy

manateehugger · June 2013

newallme said:

Apologizes if this thread already exists, i attempted a search first.

My Fiance and I would like to get married in a state park, with a catered bbq during the reception. We also wanted to get fancied up. My mother is concerned about attendees get their nice clothing getting messy (we're never pretty when we're eating ribs! haha). Does anyone have any ideas about keeping everyone clean while also enjoying delicious food?
some ideas i had included:
-some time in between ceremony and reception for everyone to change into casual bbq clothing (mom is hesitant to tell out-of-towners to bring a change of clothing)
-custom bibs with our names, the date, and some sort of celebratory saying (mom/i are concerned that would be tacky)
-semi-casual dress. no jeans, but not as fancy that attendees might get mad at excessive bbq sauce on their decolletage.

thoughts? ideas?
please and thank you so much!
Nancy

In response to your ideas:

-Gaps of time between the reception and ceremony are generally considered a faux pas around here. So that idea should be out.

-The custom bibs aren't a terrible idea. If they fit the style of your wedding (which it sounds like they will since it's a BBQ), I actually think they could be really cute.

-You can suggest semi-casual dress to anyone who asks, but be sure NOT to include a dress code on your invitations or website.

If you have a website, you could also note there that it will be a BBQ so guests will know to prepare appropriately. Word of mouth can also do wonders.

newallme · June 2013

thank you for your input PDKH1! i wasn't happy with the first option, so i'm glad that's out.

manateehugger · June 2013

Yay! Search around for bibs that are cute and let us know what you find!

I'd probably snag one if I was at a fun BBQ wedding. Heck, I'm probably going to use a napkin as a bib at my wedding because I'm terrified of spilling on my dress.

newallme · June 2013

after a slightly terrifying google search for "custom bibs for adults", the cheapest come from http://www.sandscripts.com/catalog/promotions/bibs.html which can be disposable for $1.99, or reusable for $9.99. pretty good deal! Cafepress is kind of expensive, but also available.
however, my fiance does not like, so nevermind lol

SBmini · June 2013

Don't serve ribs? There's plenty of other BBQ food that is delicious and not as messy.

newallme · June 2013

blaspheme!! haha no, our family definitely really love ribs, so we'd like to have them.

jessicabessica · June 2013

I would try to keep your wedding more casual--spread that by word of mouth and make your invitation style casual (don't write a dress code, but choose paper, design, and font to indicate to guests that it is less formal).

ElcaB · June 2013

I wouldn't sweat it. Even though I know firsthand how messy some people can be when eating BBQ (ahem, me), adults should be able to handle it. Just provide plenty of napkins and some hand wipes. If people are that concerned about the possibility of spilling sauce on their clothes, they'll tuck the napkins in their shirts - no specialty bib needed. If you go the bib route, you'll have additional costs to worry about (which may or may not be of concern to you) and one of two things will happen: either everyone will wear them and you'll have some super cute photos, or no one will where them (aside from crazy Aunt Rhonda) and you'll have wasted money.

I went to a BBQ wedding last year and under her "what to wear" section of the wedding website, the bride wrote: "Obviously, don't wear white. The bride is the only one allowed to risk BBQ sauce on a white dress." I thought that was cute. As others mentioned, you should just be sure your guests know it's a casual BBQ and they shouldn't don their evening gowns

newallme · June 2013

that's the opinion we've kind of arrived at, ClaireyBee, but thank you for putting it into a hilarious paragraph haha. though i would like to meet Aunt Rhonda.

yes, i think i'll spread word that it will be bbq, but let guests decide as they may about what precautions they'll take.

Thank you all! I really appreciate all of the input!

itzMS · June 2013

I think when folks see that the name of your reception venue is XYZ State Park, they won't show up in formal attire.

Make sure to have tons of wetnaps and napkins/paper towels!

Jen4948 · June 2013

Not wild about the printed bib idea, but I think giving a word-of-mouth heads-up about casual dress is a good idea.

QueerFemme · June 2013

Our wedding was at a park. Some people showed up in sundresses, others showed up in more formal dresses and suits, and a handful were in jeans and very casual shirts. People will figure it out on their own.

BecauseYouAre · June 2013

http://pinterest.com/pin/470626229780717798/ these are classier than bibs FI might be okay with this.

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