I've always been a sensitive person. While fMIL is going on about her 5 minute dance with her son... I blurt out "Actually we were thinking of doing it a different way!" and explained that I was feeling nauseated at the idea of having all eyes on me, and that it was going to take some nerves to even get me down the aisle! She then explained "All brides go thru this, my dad had to drag me to take my first step down the aisle!"
3 months later (while I've been working my tail off planning the wedding, with no help or support from HER!) she sends some FB message to her son saying he "needs to make her dance happen" and that she's been "dreaming about it" since he was a little boy.
The real issue here is that she does this all the time. She won't communicate with me, but she will whine to him when she doesn't like our plans, holidays etc. I think it's childish and manipulative. He thinks so too, that's why he doesn't like to deal with her. (Stupid me knew this from day 1.)
So when he simply forwarded me the message, instead of handling her, I contacted her. I told her if she wanted to discuss our wedding, she should do it in person, or to both of us. Well. She flipped. To the point where the entire family is calling him saying awful things about me. Telling him to reconsider saying I DO. His response is to ignore them.
I want him to handle it and stand up for me! Another 3 months has gone by and this is completely unresolved! What do I do?