cell phones

Qkellygirl · June 2013

Thoughts on asking folks to silence cells phones at the ceremony? I was thinking of putting it in the program. It annoys the hell out of me when people are constantly texting. I know I can't do much about it at the reception, but I swear if I see a cell phone out during the ceremony (especially by a teen) I will call said person out right in front of everyone, even if it interupts the flow of things.

Do you think a "please refrain from using electronic devices" is ok on a program?

hmonkey · June 2013

>I will call said person out right in front of everyone

you won't, really.

ask your officiant to make a small, tasteful announcement. it could be about asking people to be in the moment and sharing this with you, rather than "stop it with the phones."

kg4890a · June 2013

Here is what we are having our officiant say at the beginning of the ceremony. We got the idea from this photographers website :

“Welcome, friends and family! Good evening everyone. Please be seated. Dan and Jennifer invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your cell phones and put down your cameras. The photographer will capture how this moment looks — I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology. If Dan can do it, then so can you.”

PirateBarbie · June 2013

i think you need to stop worrying so much about controlling your guests' behavior.

your childish "call out" is going to be much more disruptive to the ceremony than your FI's cousins texting during the ceremony. you'll just look like a massive b!tch.

... do you really think that putting that note in the program will stop the spoiled brat teens from texting their friends?

Qkellygirl said:

Thoughts on asking folks to silence cells phones at the ceremony? I was thinking of putting it in the program. It annoys the hell out of me when people are constantly texting. I know I can't do much about it at the reception, but I swear if I see a cell phone out during the ceremony (especially by a teen) I will call said person out right in front of everyone, even if it interupts the flow of things.

Do you think a "please refrain from using electronic devices" is ok on a program?

tawillers · June 2013

You really hate those spoiled teens, don't you? You should make them sit in the overflow room at the church and provide them a video feed of the ceremony.

I have never seen a bride on phone duty during her own wedding. You should hire a guy for that.

Qkellygirl · June 2013

I like it, that's perfect! Can I borrow it?

Qkellygirl · June 2013

I like it, that's perfect! Can I borrow it?

Qkellygirl · June 2013

I do actually. The younger generation freaks me out with their entitled, selfish "I'm the center of the universe" way of thinking. Its not just these kids, it seems to be a blanket of all Millenials/Generation Y'ers. I know there are exceptions to every rule but kids with respect seem to be a dying breed these days

Last week I was at Six Flags and a girl no more than 10 who was carrying a Coach purse and an IPhone 5 cut right in front of my brother who is visibly disabled. When I pointed this out she and her friend just started pointing and laughing. So I took my brother's hand and stepped right in front of them. Of course she went crying to bleach-blonde mommy who came to confront us, but when mom saw that my brother had Down Syndrome she quickly backed off and just walked the girl away, never once correcting her behavior. I'm sure that was because she knew others in the restaurant would be on our side.

I mean seriously?? Kids are just obnoxious.

dharmabunny · June 2013

Qkellygirl said:
I do actually. The younger generation freaks me out with their entitled, selfish "I'm the center of the universe" way of thinking. Its not just these kids, it seems to be a blanket of all Millenials/Generation Y'ers. I know there are exceptions to every rule but kids with respect seem to be a dying breed these days

Last week I was at Six Flags and a girl no more than 10 who was carrying a Coach purse and an IPhone 5 cut right in front of my brother who is visibly disabled. When I pointed this out she and her friend just started pointing and laughing. So I took my brother's hand and stepped right in front of them. Of course she went crying to bleach-blonde mommy who came to confront us, but when mom saw that my brother had Down Syndrome she quickly backed off and just walked the girl away, never once correcting her behavior. I'm sure that was because she knew others in the restaurant would be on our side.

I mean seriously?? Kids are just obnoxious.

You totally just sounded 75 there. YOU WHIPPERSNAPPERS!!!! Get off my lawn mfers before I spray you with the garden hose!!!

You realize EVERY older generation complains about the younger, right?

hmonkey · June 2013

thank goodness that gen x has you, qkelly. thank you.

Qkellygirl · June 2013

Yeah thats probably true but it sounds like you're saying its ok to be abusive to people, especially if they can't defend themselves like my bro.

Do you park in handicapped spots too?

hmonkey · June 2013

dharmabunny · June 2013

Qkellygirl said:
Yeah thats probably true but it sounds like you're saying its ok to be abusive to people, especially if they can't defend themselves like my bro.

Do you park in handicapped spots too?

Do you attribute one snot nosed 10 year old with her iPhone and her mom to every last kid and tween in the US?

Do you actually know the behavior went uncorrected, or just not in front of you? Or is that the kind of thing People of Walmart do?

Wzz · June 2013

freaks you out? really? you need help if that is true.

Qkellygirl · June 2013

Wow...judgement all around. Accordiung to Stage Manager I'm "idiotic" Scribe thinks I'm shallow and WZZ enjoys picking apart people's feelings

I won't sink to that level, I was just asking for advice after all this is my first wedding (How many on this forum under 40 can say that? Show of hands? Ok good) Apparently this isn't the forum for asking for help. I guess I'll go elsewhere.

Sorry that I seemed concerned about money. Maybe it is partial jealousy. At 18 I was living in a bug-infested boarding house eating stale parmesan cheese because it was either food or rent. Everything I have I worked my tail off for. I'm assuming at 18 most of you were at frat parties letting football players get to second base after two jello-shots and spending daddy's money on hairspray?

Thank you for the input

hmonkey · June 2013

thus far, i have only had one wedding and i am under 40.

my college did not have fraternities. i stopped using hairspray in the 90s -- but had i known it was going to be fifty degrees in june in 2013, i would have used more.

hmonkey · June 2013

if it makes you feel better, qkelly -- my plan is to marry first for love, and THEN for money.

DixieNormous330 · June 2013

That's some anger you're holding on to. And it seems directed at the 1% you seem to think are on this board.

dharmabunny · June 2013

Qkellygirl said:
Wow...judgement all around. Accordiung to Stage Manager I'm "idiotic" Scribe thinks I'm shallow and WZZ enjoys picking apart people's feelings

Sorry that I seemed concerned about money. Maybe it is partial jealousy. At 18 I was living in a bug-infested boarding house eating stale parmesan cheese because it was either food or rent. Everything I have I worked my tail off for. I'm assuming at 18 most of you were at frat parties letting football players get to second base after two jello-shots and spending daddy's money on hairspray?

Thank you for the input

JIC...So you must have been that really really irrationally angry Occupy protestor. That one that took things way way way too personally

Wzz · June 2013

i still use hairspray sometimes.

jarednmegan · June 2013

dharmabunny said:

Wow...judgement all around. Accordiung to Stage Manager I'm "idiotic" Scribe thinks I'm shallow and WZZ enjoys picking apart people's feelings

Sorry that I seemed concerned about money. Maybe it is partial jealousy. At 18 I was living in a bug-infested boarding house eating stale parmesan cheese because it was either food or rent. Everything I have I worked my tail off for. I'm assuming at 18 most of you were at frat parties letting football players get to second base after two jello-shots and spending daddy's money on hairspray?

Thank you for the input
JIC...So you must have been that really really irrationally angry Occupy protestor. That one that took things way way way too personally

6fsn · June 2013

I can't use hairspray?

To answer the question: Someone rude enough to use a cell phone during your ceremony will not magically put it away for something in the program (they probably won't read anyway)

FWIW- most of my college was paid for by scholarship and working odd jobs. I didn't do jello shots because I preferred scotch. It was hard to kiss anyone at my school that wasn't greek though.

NerdyLucy · June 2013

6fsn said:

To answer the question: Someone rude enough to use a cell phone during your ceremony will not magically put it away for something in the program (they probably won't read anyway)

Unfortunately, I think this is 100% correct. If a guest is so oblivous as to think it's okay to use their phone during a wedding ceremony, then said guest probably won't give a crap about whether or not you or the program says not to.

kerbohl · June 2013

Rude people on phones do annoy me as well, but I think I will ignore them on my wedding day. No notes or announcements or anything. I just hope that a cell phone doesn't go off at an important moment, but what are the odds?
Anyone recall the story about Hugh Jackman actually calling out a cell phone user during his play "A Steady Rain"? It was awesome. So give OP the benefit of a doubt - if Hugh Jackman can break character and tell an audience member to shut off his phone, a bride can.

thejucheidea · June 2013

Phbt, no, when I was 18, I was using my GRANDMA'S money to go to a $45,000 a year college that had a nude activities club, no core curriculum, no exams, no grades, no set majors and no sports teams. I did go to the dressed to get laid party, but I wasn't topless like a good number of the girls, and without football players, I guess there wasn't anyone but dirty, trust fund hippies with whom to get to second base.

GET IT RIGHT. YOU DON'T KNOW MY LIFE.

DixieNormous330 · June 2013

ahstillwell said:

Phbt, no, when I was 18, I was using my GRANDMA'S money to go to a $45,000 a year college that had a nude activities club, no core curriculum, no exams, no grades, no set majors and no sports teams. I did go to the dressed to get laid party, but I wasn't topless like a good number of the girls, and without football players, I guess there wasn't anyone but dirty, trust fund hippies with whom to get to second base.

GET IT RIGHT. YOU DON'T KNOW MY LIFE.

You went to Sarah Lawrence?

hmonkey · June 2013

you know that old saying:

as hugh jackman goes, so goes the world.

thejucheidea · June 2013

DixieNormous330 said:

ahstillwell said:

Phbt, no, when I was 18, I was using my GRANDMA'S money to go to a $45,000 a year college that had a nude activities club, no core curriculum, no exams, no grades, no set majors and no sports teams. I did go to the dressed to get laid party, but I wasn't topless like a good number of the girls, and without football players, I guess there wasn't anyone but dirty, trust fund hippies with whom to get to second base.

GET IT RIGHT. YOU DON'T KNOW MY LIFE.

You went to Sarah Lawrence?

Close enough: Bennington.

Sandra · June 2013

There is no way you can avoid that any of your guest do something you don´t like; like taking his or hers phone out and text, or call someone.

Focus on what you can do instead. Tell the officiant to ask the people on the room to avoid using the phones or at least to place them on silence. Have someone you trust make sure nobody is making that much noise. And if this is not enough for you; you can place on the program, "if you are using your phone, please use it to record the ceremony"

Hope this helps.

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