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21 and Older

akourlesis420akourlesis420
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My fiance and I decided that our wedding is going to be for family and friends that are 21 and older. There is going to be a lot of drinking and we feel kids really don't need to be around that. My question is how do I right this RESPECTFULLY on the invitation.. HELP!
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    @KnotPorscha we should probably get this moved to the appropriate board for better responses. 

    To OP, it's very rude to note who is NOT invited on an invitation. Don't do this. Just address the invitation to the people you actually are inviting to your wedding. If someone RSVP's with their kid in tow (which is rude of them BTW), just call them up and explain that the invitation was only meant for the people listed on the envelope. 

    And side note: I've been around drinking since I was tiny - it's not a big deal. Trust me a 16-20 year old especially can handle watching adults drink. 


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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] admin
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    Moving this to our invitations board for more advice. Thanks!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Ditto the others. Just keep the invitations addressed to those you're actually inviting and make no mention of those you're excluding.

    That said, if you split up nuclear families to do this you could be offending some guests. It's not unacceptable but your reasoning is pretty much BS that a 19 yo wouldn't be able to attend a wedding with alcohol but his 22 yo sibling can. My child's 2 birthday parties had plenty of booze flowing so avoid the puritanical judgement call to your guests.

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  • RaeH42RaeH42 member
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    My cousin and friend wrote 'Adult Only Reception' on the top of their invites. I personally think it's rude to have it 21 and up. I went to a wedding when I was 19 and after 9pm anyone under 21 had to leave.I didn't think it was fair to invite me to the wedding and part of the reception and then ask me to leave. The bartenders usually card so if there is anyone under 21, they shouldn't be drinking.
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  • mandibride2bemandibride2be member
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    Specifially write Mr. & Mrs. 
    I know with children (when I was younger it would either be Mr & Mrs. C & family or Mr. & Mrs. C)
    Also on Rsvp write number attending instead of yes or no to clear up any misconceptions. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited June 2013
    RaeH42 said:
    My cousin and friend wrote 'Adult Only Reception' on the top of their invites. I personally think it's rude to have it 21 and up. I went to a wedding when I was 19 and after 9pm anyone under 21 had to leave.I didn't think it was fair to invite me to the wedding and part of the reception and then ask me to leave. The bartenders usually card so if there is anyone under 21, they shouldn't be drinking.
    What was rude was to put "Adults Only Reception" on the invitations.  The appropriate way to convey that information would have been to not list guests under 21 on the invitation, so if they didn't want you to come to the reception, you should not have been invited to the ceremony.  I agree that having invited you to the ceremony, it wasn't polite to exclude you from the reception.
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