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kmj500kmj500 member
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Recently, someone I wasn't planning on inviting to my wedding sent me a Facebook message asking when my fiance and I were planning on sending out invitations. They are a distant relative (second or third cousin) that I've only seen a couple of times but I wasn't planning on inviting them because our guest list is already maxed out. Plus, they live far away and I can't invite just one of the families without inviting the other ones that live out there too. Is there any way I can make this less awkward and without them getting mad at me?

 

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Re: Help!

  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    If you've already sent them out, you can let him/her know that you already sent them and if s/he doesn't take the hint and replies with "well I didn't get mine" (derrrr...) you could explain that you've invited those closest to you due to budget/venue size/whatever your reasons are. 

    People and their presumptuousness never cease to amaze me.
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  • harper0813harper0813 member
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    I agree that ignoring it would be the best option. Especially since Facebook now tells you if a recipient read the message you sent - this relative will see it and get the hint.
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    zoberg said:
    I agree that ignoring it would be the best option. Especially since Facebook now tells you if a recipient read the message you sent - this relative will see it and get the hint.

    I ABSOLUTELY HATE that new feature.  Just let me ignore people like I want to, Facebook.  Gosh.
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  • kmj500kmj500 member
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    Ugh, I brushed it off by saying that we wished that we could invite everyone but with our budget, we likely won't be able to invite everyone. They replied by saying they need a plus one AND that they'd pay for it. I don't know why they're so desperate to come, I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen them and they're like second or third cousins. I'm considering just shutting my Facebook down so I won't be put in this extremely awkward position again when I send out my invites haha.

    I found it super rude to ask and just assume you are just going to be invited. And to come back and say they are bringing some random. Like WTF! I knew things could get awkward, but not like this.

     

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  • kmj500kmj500 member
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    I know right! Glad I'm not the only one that thinks it was pretty rude. I likely won't see the person ever again in my life either so I don't see why they think they need an invite (they live super far away and even if they come to visit my grandma in my hometown, I don't live there anymore so it's unlikely that I'd see them). I already hinted that they won't be invited so I hope they get the hint when the invitation doesn't arrive (who am I kidding, probably not). Ugh! Thanks for all your help everyone :)

     

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