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In Need of Encouragment

snoopycacsnoopycac member
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Hi, I've been on the boards here for a while and have gotten really discouraged with some of the things people have been saying. I didn't even know this board even existed until now when I was looking for somewhere else. It is just sad to see so many people passing judgement on someone's idea and telling them so many things are "wrong" about their wedding. It makes me almost feel like having a wedding isn't worth it. I know, logically, that isn't true and I am just letting them get to me. However I am the type of person who value's the opinions that are given to me and sometimes I may take them a little too personally. So that is my spiel, I am just looking for some encouragement and hope that not everyone in the world is that cynical.
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  • flutterfly88flutterfly88 member
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    @snoopycac I'm sorry you're feeling discouraged. I've found the ladies on here to be very encouraging and supportive, so hang out here for a while, and hopefully you'll feel the same way :D

     

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    @snoopcac like @flutterfly88 said, I'm sorry you're feeling discouraged. Was it your idea that people were saying are wrong? I know often times things like forcing your BMs to buy a dress out of their budget, replacing members of your WP because they aren't participating, registries that directly ask for money for anything, or putting registry information on invitations are generally frowned upon. I do hope that you will stay, though. 

    If you're going to stick around this board, and I hope you do, can you introduce yourself? Thanks! PS Welcome to the board.
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  • shannyb41shannyb41 member
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    People are saying something is wrong because it is rude.  Being rude to guests is wrong.  Sorry that makes you feel discouraged.  
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  • snoopycacsnoopycac member
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    The problem I am seeing is that I guess my home town people view "rude" differently. What people on here say is rude, isn't actually where I come from. It is just strange to think about and process, and honestly, I'm sorry but it looks as if this isn't the place for me. People may think they are giving constructive criticism but when you are on the receiving end of the bantering, it comes off as attacks. And that isn't the type of thing I need in my life. So, I guess this is my official goodbye post to TheKnot. I'm sorry I took my frustrations out on you all. I hope your weddings turn out lovely.
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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    I didn't even know people could GBCK from the Christian board.  I think this might be a first.  Never mind I take that back, I know people have done it before.

    @snoopycac I'm sorry you felt attacked.  Please understand that universal etiquette is hard to deal with when it comes to your own home town, however, just because some people in your home town think it is ok, does not make it ok.  Sorry you felt attacked though, that is never fun, but I am sure no one was attacking you. 
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  • Ash61612Ash61612 member
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    I am sorry you are feeling that way. It's hard to read tone through internet posting without hearing them face to face. There are many ways to have a wedding. In my part of the country, you wouldn't see a cash bar or the dollar dance but there are some parts of the country where that is acceptable.

    Was it things that were said on this particular board or other boards on TK?

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  • jarednmeganjarednmegan member
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    edited June 2013
    I've found that people on here seek advice and get it...good, bad and ugly. Sometimes it is brutally honest, but I've never found it offensive. Maybe that's just me, though.

    Threads get ugly when OPs lash out because they didn't get the advice they *wanted* to hear. The people who come seeking advice seem to dole out the most abuse, IMO.
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