Okay so I don't know what to do about a bridesmaid that hasn't bought here dress yet for my wedding which is 10 weeks away. I gave her a June 1st deadline to get the dress and she hasn't done it yet. I don't know if I should talk to her about why that was the deadline in more detail and emphasize how important it is to order the dress asap or just let it alone. If I was the only one impacted by her not purchasing the dress I wouldn't mind so much but the other people in the wedding party have a right to know in advance what they are doing that day. And that changes depending on her attendance.
I'm not asking for any special shoes, accessories, makeup, or hairstyle. Just that she buys a dress in the color that I have chosen and that it isn't floor length. I did go with a specific color from DB so she will have to get a DB dress but I honestly wouldn't care if she got the dress from Goodwill or eBay if that is what she wants to do. When I asked her to be a bridesmaid I mentioned that a dress from DB can range from 80-150 dollars when buying directly from DB depending on the style. She said that was fine and she appreciated that she could get whatever style she liked.
I also understand that she has things going on with her own life and
that is why I don't know if I should bring it up or not. In the
beginning of my engagement she made it pretty clear that she wasn't
interested in doing much other than showing up that day and helping with
the ceremony so I haven't talked to her about the wedding except for
telling her about her dress requirements. And before people start saying the problem is I don't ask her how she is doing and about her life I do in fact text and call and we only talk about her when she answers or replies that is.
She can do whatever she wants with her money, it is in fact her business, but it just hurts me that after saying it wasn't too much money for her to buy the dress she complains about being broke when we talk ( which isn't very often anymore) and then in the same breath tells me how much she spent on going out the weekend before. I'm a little upset that after being a bridesmaid for her at her destination weddings ( yes that was plural on purpose) when I was a student and living on noodles that she can't get the dress for my wedding. I understand that my wedding isn't as important to her as it is to me but when you say yes to being a bridesmaid that does mean you take on some responsibility.
Now that I have rambled on a bit some advice would be much appreciated.