Does the bride typically tell the bridesmaids how to style their hair on wedding day?

theycallmejen · June 2013

Thanks

- Bridesmaid

banana468 · June 2013

The bride shouldn't tell her BMs how to do their hair but some do.

Ultimately as a BM, it's your head so you get final say.

itzMS · June 2013

Agreed with Banana. The bride definitely shouldn't, and if she does, she should 100% pay for the hairstyle.

QueerFemme · June 2013

If you are requiring a specific hairstyle, you need to pay for it. Personally, I think telling someone how to do their hair is wayyyy to controlling, in general. It's their hair, let them style it however they want.

[Deleted User] · June 2013

My BMs asked me how I'd like their hair done. I said "Well, why don't you all wear it down? My hair will be up so... wait a minute. I can' t believe I just said that out loud. That was really stupid. Wear your hair however you want."

I don't think you should tell them. If they tell you they all want to have it done how you want it (don't ask. this should be volunteered. and sounds weird, i can't imagine anyone doing it), I would offer to pay for it. If it's to be a done a certain way, it should be paid for.

Jessa617 · June 2013

The only time I can see the bride telling the bridesmaids how to wear their hair is if the bride wants a specific accessory, In this case, the bride pays for the hairpieces. If the bride is adamant about choosing the style, then as PP mentioned, the bride should pay for it. If the bride is not paying for it, she has no say in how you wear or hair (or makeup, or nails etc for that matter).

Maggie0829 · June 2013

Only if you want to micromanage the hell out of your BMs.

Let them do their hair the way they want.

winelover123 · June 2013

My BMs asked me a few times how I want their hair. I just said off their faces so I could see their pretty faces :-) I'm not sure why you DD'd but, I'll just parrot the others and say it's pretty micromanaging for a bride to tell them specifically how to wear their hair.

[Deleted User] · June 2013

I wouldn't give them a specific hairstyle, but if you have a preference you could express that to them. Up or down. I was given these directions as a bridesmaid and I did not find it insulting at all. The bride asked us all to put it up, and I asked about having half of it pulled up. She was fine with that, just wanted it pulled out of my face.

A simple, "I was hoping that you guys would be okay with putting your hair up for the wedding photos and the ceremony. However you want is fine." Was what she said to us. That also gave us free range to take our hair down during the reception. She did not ask us to get our hair professionally done, although she did offer for us all to join her at the salon, although she did explain that she could not afford for to pay for us.

Does the bride typically tell the bridesmaids how to style their hair on wedding day?

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