I want to knock someone out!!!!!! SERIOUSLY

Re: I want to knock someone out!!!!!! SERIOUSLY

• thejucheidea member

  

  June 2013

  

  
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  June 2013

  You're welcome to get married anywhere, anytime, any place, that you want. You're not allowed to pick a far away destination that will incur huge travel expenses for your friends and family and expect that they'll be willing and able to pony up the money for travel, accommodations, and attire. Life is a series of choices, all of which have consequences. Be aware of that before you make irreversible decisions.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• Micki1985

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  scribe95,

  
  

  As to your question about whom will be planning it.  Honestly I would wish that my fiance would help me with this, but that is like pulling teeth from an alligator who is starving, not going to happen.  That is not the problem.

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• jarednmegan member

  

  June 2013

  Micki1985 said:

  scribe95,

  
  

  As to your question about whom will be planning it.  Honestly I would wish that my fiance would help me with this, but that is like pulling teeth from an alligator who is starving, not going to happen.  That is not the problem.

  What's the problem, then?
  
  You don't have anyone else who could help you?
  

  
  

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• hmonkey member

  

  June 2013

  Micki1985 said:

  scribe95,

  
  

  As to your question about whom will be planning it.  Honestly I would wish that my fiance would help me with this, but that is like pulling teeth from an alligator who is starving, not going to happen.  That is not the problem.

  sounds like a great choice in life partner!
  

  

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• Heffalump member

  

  June 2013

  Your sister has a 9 y.o., a 2 y.o., and a third kid who sounds like she's somewhere in between, she's not sure she can travel with all of them to California, and your first response is to want to "jump her and knock her out?"  I can see why she may not be willing to bend over backwards for you, you sound awesome.

  As for "I thought I was planning mine and my fiance's big day, not hers," it sounds like at the rate you're going, it will be just you and your FI, so there you go.  Problem solved.

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• jarednmegan member

  

  June 2013

  
  

  Heffalump said:

  Your sister has a 9 y.o., a 2 y.o., and a third kid who sounds like she's somewhere in between, she's not sure she can travel with all of them to California, and your first response is to want to "jump her and knock her out?"  I can see why she may not be willing to bend over backwards for you, you sound awesome.

  As for "I thought I was planning mine and my fiance's big day, not hers," it sounds like at the rate you're going, it will be just you and your FI, so there you go.  Problem solved.

  FI and I talked about starting a "Bridezillas" drinking game: Every time a BZ says something about "my day," we'll take a drink.
  
  How about a TK boards drinking game with the same rule?
  

  
  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  June 2013

  You'll end up with alcohol poisoning.  Seriously.

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• dharmabunny member

  

  June 2013

  VarunaTT said:

  You'll end up with alcohol poisoning.  Seriously.

  But the blackout drunk hijinks would be so choice! C and P for future shaming : D
  

  

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• jarednmegan member

  

  June 2013

  dharmabunny said:

  You'll end up with alcohol poisoning.  Seriously.

  But the blackout drunk hijinks would be so choice! C and P for future shaming : D

  I think @Micki1985 needs a drink. Or two. Or...
  

  
  

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• msdds51 member

  

  June 2013

  She definitely didn't phrase that the right way, but you should also be considerate of her budget.  This is YOUR big day, which means to her, she needs to weight he expense of it.

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  June 2013

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• LAM524 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  IMO...sounds like your sister was giving you the heads up to her very real situation which sounds like it could be a true practical hardship for her. She didnt tell you what not to do or that she didnt want to be involved. Actually, by making that statement, (assuming her motive) it sounds like she does want to be included. Why else the warning? What about other family/friends? Would CA also pose a hardship for them?
  
  Me & my sister have had some rocky times (relationship) throughout our lives, (Im 46 & shes 45), but if she told me this, I def. would reconsider and even have a serious talk with her about the "whys" of her statement. For me, she is still my sister and I would want her sharing in this special day. After all, when there is "good" going on, why not experience it together. Life gives us plenty of crap other wise & plenty of "opportunity" to not get along!
  
  Maybe your wedding and planning, etc. is a great opportunity for you to bridge the gap and develop a closer connection.
  

  
  

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• SBmini member

  

  June 2013

  You can get married where ever the hell you want, you just can't expect all of your semi-loved ones to follow you there. It is not fair to yourself or anyone else to complain about planning yourself when you don't think to ask others for their thoughts or opinions. You can't have you passive agressive pity party both ways. If you want to throw yourself on a sword for doing everything yourself, then expect others to not be pleased with your decisions. 

  
  

  It's also just plain rude to ask someone to be in your bridal party without telling them travel will be involved. You are already asking someone to commit to buying a dress and giving up their day, now you are asking them to commit to plane tickets for their family and a hotel room? That expectation should be set when you ask, not after they say yes. 

  
  

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