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Pros and cons of having a MOH and BMs

EEY0RE9EEY0RE9 member
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What are they? I'm still debating if I want them at all. My wedding will be the first real wedding in my family since my parents tied the knot. My mom wants it to be big and beautiful. Of course it's not gonna be all about my mom but I do want to let her have one thing. She really wants me to have a MOH and BMs. I don't know why, she just does. So if anyone can help, I would be most grateful.
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Re: Pros and cons of having a MOH and BMs

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    Honestly, if you have to make a pro and con list to decide on whether or not to have a bridal party I would suggest just skipping it.  You shouldn't have to weigh the options.  You should just know that you want people to stand up there with you or not.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    edited June 2013
    I don't really think there ARE pros and cons, per se. It's more a matter of do you want people standing at the altar with you or not?

    ETA: Does your fiance want groomsmen for his side?


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  • erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    its a personal preference so do not let anyone dictate to you who you should have.  I had 5 bridesmaids-- I did not pick a MOH because my 3 best friends were like my sisters and I did not want to pick one of them to be more "special" then the next.  A bridesmaid and a MOH really do the same thing.  My 3 best friends hosted my bachelorette party because they wanted to and they did  a joint toast because again they wanted to as we had done for each other.  One signed my marriage license, one held my bouquet; the other did not throw a fit that she did not have a "job" to do.

      
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  • NerdyLucyNerdyLucy member
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    I have no wedding party.  I was afraid it would turn into a mess of hurt feelings for family or friends, so I chose no to have anyone up there.  FI chose the same.  It works out fine because it's a pretty small wedding. 

     

    The only other option I considered was having my brother stand up there as my "Man of Honor."

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  • csuavecsuave member
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    I believe the "pros" that I am experiencing with my BMs would be same even if I didn't have a wedding party.  My BMs have been excellent sounding boards and very excited about talking wedding details; I feel that with my SIL as a BM it is a good bonding experience for us.  Also a great bonding experience with my matron of honor as she gives me great advice from a married perspective.  That being said, I know all of these women would be there for me in the same way and want to talk wedding with me even if I wasn't having a BP. 
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