Reception Seating-- Parents

ezza671 · June 2013

FI and I both have parents that are still married,
Do I seat them all together? Or at their own tables?

Jen4948 · June 2013

Keep them together, but whether at a head table or a table of their own for both or for each separate set of parents is up to you.

southernbelle0915 · June 2013

I would keep them together.

tammym1001 · June 2013

Do they know each other and get along? Are there other people they would want to sit with like maybe their other children or their parents? Do they want to sit with each other?

There isn't really a general answer to that questions because it depends on so many things.

wittykitty14 · June 2013

Have you and your FI talked to your parents? What would they like to do?

winelover123 · June 2013

We're giving each set of parents their own tables to host with either their friends or their close family.

harper0813 · June 2013

Ask them who they'd like to sit with.

britthitched · June 2013

For us, both sets of parents are still married and are actually quite close. We asked them separately what they would prefer, and both said they'd like to sit with their siblings/close friends at tables next to each other. It worked out well that even though they like each other well enough, they also thought that each couple would like to have the "down time" during dinner to catch up with family!

cbrown828 · June 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

I would have them host separate tables with your grandparents (if still living) and attending aunts/uncles, siblings, etc.

This is what we are doing because our parents don't know each other and are quite different. We all decided each set of parents (mine are divorced but get along well) could host tables of their own with other family.

lyndausvi · June 2013

We gave each set their own table to host. They got to pick who they got to sit with.

hockey20 · June 2013

My mom and my fiancé's parents haven't met yet, and actually won't until the wedding... We're putting them at separate tables. My mom, her new husband, the JP and guest, my BM's husband and son. The other table is my fiancé's parents, niece and nephews. It just works out nicer for us, with the niece and nephew, as both parents are in the wedding party, to do it this way.

kmmssg · June 2013

When our girls get married, the parents always host their own tables. I would much prefer to host my out of state siblings at my table and my FIL who is the only living grandparent than to sit with the other parents. Of course, I am divorced from the father of my bio daughters, but if my DD wanted it badly, I'd sit with him and his ex-wife for dinner. Fortunately, that hasn't been an issue.

One question I have is: if you sit the 2 sets of parents together, who will sit in the other 4 seats at that table? If you have more than a total of 4 living grandparents, you can't go that way.

aphrodite0869 · June 2013

My father and his wife haven't met my fiancee's family and my mother would flip if I set them all together. I am allowing people to sit where they want to. That way I will not have that added stress of trying to determine if someone will be happy sitting beside someone else. They can sit where they would like and be happy doing it!

Jen4948 · June 2013

aphrodite0869 said:

My father and his wife haven't met my fiancee's family and my mother would flip if I set them all together. I am allowing people to sit where they want to. That way I will not have that added stress of trying to determine if someone will be happy sitting beside someone else. They can sit where they would like and be happy doing it!

Doing this also suggests that you don't care enough about your guests to make sure that everyone has a seat without having to look for one that isn't "taken" or "reserved" with bags and belongings or even just others at the table telling them "this seat is taken." Nobody likes to feel like they're in a school cafeteria. Nobody will be happy having to look for open seats together.

kipnus · June 2013

We had each set of parents at their own table with other relatives. H's aunts came from Venezuela and didn't speak any English, so it would have been rude to separate them from H's parents.

VadersValkyrie · June 2013

My brother and his wife sat the parents at separate tables and then the appropriate family members sat together. My FH's parents are divorced and not amicable, so I have the other set of problems.

libby2483 · June 2013

My parents had one table, H's mom and step-dad had one table, and H's father had one table. We asked them who they would like to have seated at their table. My parents and H's mom and step-dad asked to be seated with certain family members, while H's dad preferred to be seating with his mother, one sibling, and his close friends.

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