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Thanks yous for non-gifters?

dachic4997dachic4997 member
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So I'm working on my thank you cards, but don't know what to write for the few people who didn't give a gift. One couple I am not surprised about, but some of the other people I am. The card looks kind of weird with just saying thank you for coming we hope you had a good time?

Any suggestions?
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Re: Thanks yous for non-gifters?

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Either don't send them thank-yous, or just mention how great it was to see them without mentioning gifts or "thank-you."  If you send someone a thank-you who hasn't given you a gift, it may make them feel guilty.
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  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    What everyone else said.  It's pretty much never a good idea to send 'thank you for coming" notes for anything, not just weddings.  It looks (unintentionally I know) like you're calling attention to the fact that they didn't give a gift.  (It's especially an issue since some people may still be going by that old rule that says you can send wedding gifts up to a year after the wedding.)
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  • harper0813harper0813 member
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    edited June 2013
    No need to send thank-yours to guests who didn't send gifts. It can be mistaken for guilting them. You can always call them and tell them how glad you are they could join you, especially if they traveled a long distance, but even then, it's not necessary and might be awkward if you don't know them very well. The reception is technically the "thank you" for attending.
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  • AllyIdoAllyIdo member
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    When did you get married? Maybe the gift will come at a later date. Is that "you have 1 year to buy a gift" adage really true? I've sent gifts post wedding before, but not a year late!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    allyscud said:
    When did you get married? Maybe the gift will come at a later date. Is that "you have 1 year to buy a gift" adage really true? I've sent gifts post wedding before, but not a year late!
    Yes, it's true.  What isn't true is the idea that the couple has a year to write thank-yous for gifts.  It seems to sometimes be confused with the idea that guests have a year to give the couple gifts.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If you send notes after a destination wedding, just emphasize how much it meant to you that the guest in question came.
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