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What to call my brother's fiancee...

babygrl283babygrl283 member
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Hi ladies!

My brother's fiancee is a bridesmaid in our wedding, and I'm not sure how to "label" her on the programs.  Should I say "Friend of the Bride", "Future Sister-in-law", or what?  They're getting married a few months after us.

Thanks for the help!

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Re: What to call my brother's fiancee...

  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    If they're getting married only a few months after you, I'd probably just write "sister-in-law". 

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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    I would skip labeling people. Just have them listed at BM or MOH. 
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    I'm not sure why you feel the need to label anyone's relationship to you and your fiance in the program when you could simply write, "Bridesmaid" and so forth. If you want to do this though, I would just write, "Friend of the Bride". If she's your bridesmaid, presumably, she's your friend, otherwise you wouldn't include her, right? She's not your sister-in-law yet, so that wouldn't be appropriate. Just make it as simple as possible. :-)
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  • babygrl283babygrl283 member
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    Thanks for the feedback! I was also thinking for the wedding website, there's a spot to list their relationship to the bride or groom.  I guess "friend" will work :) thanks!
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    I like seeing the labels :-)  I think friend or future sis-in-law would be good; whatever fits.

    I don't think they always have to be super literal - like in PP's situation with the former step sister I would have just put sister.  Our "niece" and "nephew" were listed as such even though they're H's 2nd cousins once removed.  They call us aunt and uncle - niece and nephew were close enough.

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  • musicalcanadianbridemusicalcanadianbride member
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    I'm doing "labels" (if that's what people want to call it) because I like to know who is who and what their relationship is to the bride and groom. Plus, it gives people something to read as they're sitting, waiting for the ceremony to start... 
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  • phiraphira member
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    For what it's worth, I referred to my sister-in-law as my sister-in-law once she and my brother got engaged. I refer to my partners family as my in-laws most of the time. No one's ever thought it was weird.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    fyrefly76 said:
    Can you list everything they are to you?  Alice; College Friend, Wednesday night Beer-drinking Partner, Book Club Leader.  Daniel; Company Softball Pitcher, Bowling Team Captain, Pub Trivia Teammate.  It might be cute, and it could also give people a better idea as to how you know your wedding party.
    This seems excessive to me...plus, it might be revealing information about the other person that they don't want to be general knowledge.  "Cute" isn't always desirable.
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  • babygrl283babygrl283 member
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    Thanks so much for the feedback everyone! I think I'll use Future Sister in Law.  If I was on the other side of this situation, I would be pleased to be called that and feel like I was being welcomed in to the family. 

    I like to know who everyone is when I'm at a wedding too and it's pretty standard in my circles.  I think it's rather obvious that I would use her name, so that feedback is unwarranted.

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  • pesematologypesematology member
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    edited June 2013
    Derp, I confused this post with a reply.

    Sister in law is fine.

    I agree with liking the labels. It's hard enough to remember who is who.
    "I wish yo azz all tha dopest up in yo' marriages"
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  • cmclairecmclaire member
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    fyrefly76 said:
    Can you list everything they are to you?  Alice; College Friend, Wednesday night Beer-drinking Partner, Book Club Leader.  Daniel; Company Softball Pitcher, Bowling Team Captain, Pub Trivia Teammate.  It might be cute, and it could also give people a better idea as to how you know your wedding party.
    I think this is cute (but of course, would always check the labels with the labelees!).



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