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Honeymoon Jars...someone I know is using one!

CheleLynCheleLyn member
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I'm going to a wedding next weekend and Bride was showing me her things for the reception and I was shocked to see a "Honeymoon Jar". I tried to steer her away from it...your guests are already coming to see you and probably bringing you boxed gift and/or monetary gift, so to solicit more money from them is rude. (I was polite about it)

She wasn't having it! She basically bean dipped me! LMAO Her final words were, "Well, I want it so I'm having it!" and changed to the topic to the food LOL

I came home and took my facebook to post about them being all over Pinterest and giving the reason I stated above why they are rude and tacky. I'm certain there will even be a Dollar Dance at this shin-dig!


~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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Re: Honeymoon Jars...someone I know is using one!

  • JB612JB612 member
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    Oh boy, I feel for you.  That is horrible.  When I planned my wedding, people where asking me about a dollar dance, which I never heard of until then.  The dollar did not happen at my wedding b/c I was not fond of it.

    The bride should come here, and we will set her straight.
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    Hey, I completely agree with you, but I think putting them on Facebook blast was a little immature, especially since you're bound to have mutual friends who will see it. You tried to steer her in the right direction. There wasn't much more you could do.
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  • easilyunamusedeasilyunamused member
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    I think blasting someone on Facebook after you talked to them about it is as tacky as a honeymoon jar.
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    I do kinda like the Monopoly money idea.  Or a handful of pennies.  
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I would be on board with the Monopoly money idea, but yeah.....did you post about her on FB? I certainly hope we are misunderstanding your post b/c if you did that, you're as tacky as she is. 




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  • goodplan86goodplan86
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    I love when people try to soak their guests for as much money as they can get. It says, in a classy way, "I'm so happy you celebrated our special day with us and we truly value your attendance." That said, I'm a bit confused about the Facebook thing too. Did you call this girl out or did you go on a rant about the tackiness of honeymoon jars? Even if you didn't mention her by name, it's not the best move. You just talked to her about it, so I am sure she will know it is aimed at her. As for the jar, you could put some of those chocolate gold coins in there. You aren't giving real money and the coins could melt and make a fun mess of her honeymoon jar...I call that win-win ;)
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  • CheleLynCheleLyn member
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    misssunshine17 said:
    Wait, you posted on facebook about how tacky it was? That's not very mature after you just talked to her about it. 

    Or maybe I'm unclear and she posted?
    I did post...in fact here is what I actually said...

    "I see these "Honeymoon Jars" on many many many Pinterest boards...DON'T DO IT! Your guests have already taken the time to attend your event and probably brought you a gift and/or given you a card with a monetary gift. Soliciting your guests to give you even more money to fund YOUR honeymoon is incredibly rude and tacky. Don't do it!"

    FTR...that particular person is not on my fb friend list
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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  • aphrodite0869aphrodite0869 member
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    I agree the honeymoon jars are tacky.  People are taking the time to come to your event and show how much they care (especially those who are traveling or paying for accommodations their selves).  That being said, it is her wedding and if you have talked to her and she hasn't changed her mind, there is really nothing else you can do.  And posting something about it on FB is not appropriate either, even if this person is not your friend.  Some you know I'm sure is and she will find out and even though FB is not as serious as people thing it is, she will be hurt and offended and it could mess up your friendship. 
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    I still think it's tacky of yourself to write a status reprimanding them for bad etiquette, which they likely haven't done or even heard of. 
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I would delete the FB post. Whether or not she is personally on your friends list, it's still tacky to do it IMO, and more than likely you do have some mutual friends on FB who can probably guess you are talking about her.

    When I see HM jars, I just ignore them. Just like I ignore and don't participate in Dollar dances.


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