Dad AND! Stepdad

[Deleted User] · April 2011

I have been fortunate enough in my life to have a wonderful father as well as an amazing stepfather. My stepfather has been in my life since I was 7 so he has truly been a father to me....I love them both equally and want them both to walk me down the aisle. Is it weird to have them both walk me down the aisle? Any ideas? Suggestions?

mmancin · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_dad-stepdad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:d432301f-2b8b-472c-a8dc-f0e7bb65c63cPost:738d742f-98e2-42f0-aeac-9a63993e10c3">Re: Dad AND! Stepdad</a>:
[QUOTE]If you want both of them to walk with you, then that's fine. I would talk with your dad about it first, since he might consider that 'his job' and might not feel comfortable sharing. But if you really want both of them to do it, then go for it.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

This. I had a discussion with my dad. At first he seemed unsure, but after he had a chance to think about it he agreed that it was fine.

I'm having both my dad and step dad walk me down the aisle. My dad is walking me the entire way (starting from the stairs), my step dad will meet us at the beginning of the aisle, and then when we get to the end of the aisle my step dad will sit down and my dad will be the one to give me away.

RaeRae1126 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dad AND! Stepdad : This. I had a discussion with my dad. At first he seemed unsure, but after he had a chance to think about it he agreed that it was fine. I'm having both my dad and step dad walk me down the aisle. My dad is walking me the entire way (starting from the stairs), my step dad will meet us at the beginning of the aisle, and then when we get to the end of the aisle my step dad will sit down and my dad will be the one to give me away.
Posted by mmancin[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is really cool. And its nice you spoke with your dad first and he's okay with it. I personally don't have that kind of relationship with my step-dad. We get along fine, but I'm my Dad's only girl and we're very close. My step dad is totally fine with that. But I just think its awesome how you worked out your situation!

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mmancin · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_dad-stepdad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:d432301f-2b8b-472c-a8dc-f0e7bb65c63cPost:09efd357-e27d-4930-87fe-80999030ce2e">Re: Dad AND! Stepdad</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dad AND! Stepdad : This is really cool. And its nice you spoke with your dad first and he's okay with it. I personally don't have that kind of relationship with my step-dad. We get along fine, but I'm my Dad's only girl and we're very close. My step dad is totally fine with that. But I just think its awesome how you worked out your situation!
Posted by RaeRae1126[/QUOTE]

Thanks! I stressed about it quite a bit before I talked to my dad. I didn't want to offend him, but I also didn't want the past 10 years that my step dad has been in my life to go unnoticed. My step dad is very humble and would have never asked to be included on his own. Also, my step dad doesn't have any of his own children, so I really wanted to be able to include him in something he may not otherwise have a chance at (I have 2 younger sisters, so my dad will get his walk down the aisle 2 more times).

I'll be splitting the father/daughter dance with them as well. :)

ljhires · April 2011

My step-dad is going to walk me down to the ceremony (It's outside and there's a long set of stairs out of the building down to the garden) and having my dad walk me down the isle and give me away.

Def. talk to your dad. My step-dad has been in my life for 25+ years and calls me his daughter etc. He has one other child with my mom which is my brother (this is his one and only time.) My dad did get to have my other sister to himself (I'm the only child between my mom and dad) so he's gotten to do it one other time.

I, myself, am very very close to my dad and want just him to give me away but still wanted to include the other father in my life in someway. This was the best way I could come up with and not hurt any feelings!

HTH!

Celticrebelgirl · April 2011

My first marriage..I had this issue..sadly my father isnt that comfy with my stepdad and my stepdad and me have a much closer realtionship then my father because of past issue etc...long story short...my dad wouldnt agree to the whole walking down aisle thing..so I compromised and had my stepdad walk me from the doors in the church to halfway..then my dad stepped in and walked me down rest of the way..and instead of the usual her mother and I giving away..he said we do...... and then for the father daughter dance..I just had 2...which everyone was ok with

This time around..Im having my brother walk me down...my way of honoring his and mine closeness...and he was honored and Loves it

My biggest thing with this is that I didnt want the same battle again and felt it was silly since id already been given away...but I didnt want to walk down alone..and this point in my life..my brother has been there and vice versa...Im still going to do 2 father daughter dances again...because heck..I did a mother daughter one Lol.

So do whatever works for you and ur family

ShaunAndLauren · April 2011

That's so exciting that you're having both dad's walk you down the aisle!

I also have a wonderful step dad and a great dad. Dad lives 3,000 miles away, but when it came down to it... he's my dad.

When I called him to ask if he would walk me down the aisle on my wedding day, he cried! He thought that I was going to ask my step dad for that honour and my dad was thrilled.

Still looking for a great way to honour my step dad on wedding day other than the dance. They definitely won't walk me down the aisle together!

needle&thread · April 2011

I would have my dad walk me half-way and then my step-dad take over and give me away. Its indicative of your life with them--dad was there in the beginning and step-dad 'stepped in' and took over until adulthood...its a perfect scenario.

My step-dad is going to give me away 'again'.

S and CJ

beaman2010 · April 2011

I have this same issue!

Our wedding is a western outdoor wedding & we're using our horse's in it. So I'm having my step dad lead me to the isle on my horse & help me off. & then my dad will take me from there and walk me down the isle. It took a lot of though. I don't want to hurt either of their feelings. But somehow I HAD to have him in there. He did raise me! I hope you can figure out something!

shelbyk2014 · June 2013

I'm having a bit of the same issue...only difference my dad is an ordained minister and will be marrying me but I just can't imagine him not walking me down the isle. We talked about both of them but then the isle has to be bigger. I really like the idea of my dad escorting me to the isle then my step dad joining and then him having a seat. But my dad is going to be the one to say "who is giving this woman away?" does my step dad say "we do" or my mom??? So far this is the hardest decision.

Viczaesar · June 2013

You should start your own thread, Shelby, not resurrect a 2+ year old thread. (PS, it's aisle, not isle.)

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