Two questions:
If I am paying for a civil ceremony officiant and paying for them to go to the actual rehearsal, do I need to invite them to the dinner?
Also, my FMIL wants to invite all the family that is coming in from out of town. Do we have to do that? They are paying for the dinner, but I just wanted something low key with my bridal party so we can laugh and relax before the big day. I also worry that then my mom will be mad if out of town family from my side of the family can't make it because she'll think it's all about the IL's family. (Our RD is the Thursday before our Saturday wedding so I don't think many people on my side would want to come in early just for that.)