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Wedding Woes
Jenessa11
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My Grandpa died on May 24th, 2013. My wedding date is May 24th, 2014. Should I change my date?
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Immediately after getting engaged i started looking into venues because I knew dates in May, June, July would be booked very far in advance. I found the a venue that I absolutely fell in love with and they only had one weekend in all of may and June left ( May 24th 2014) so I quickly booked it out of fear that I would lose the venue. So in my hastiness I did not even realize what I had done, I had selected the very day that my grandpa died. Now there was only one other day that was even an option and that was the 25th of May. I need some advice on this and have been unable to really find anyone that has dealt with a similar issue. I'm not sure if I should switch to the 25th, or if the difference of one day really changes anything. Obviously his death was recent so everything is fresh, emotions are still running high and people are still grieving. I've spoke to a few family members about it and I just seem to get the typical answer " do what makes you happy" "Its your special day" I feel like most people are just sugar coating it and telling me what they think I want to hear.
So should I try and move my date to the 25th instead of the 24th to avoid offending anyone? Or should I just get over it, keep my date on the 24th and do my best to celebrate my grandpas life and not his death?
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i really don't think it makes a difference.if you were close to him,do something at the wedding to remember your grandfather and any other close family/friends that are deceased. we had a floral arrangement and a note in the program in memory of our grandparents and DK's aunt. you could also carry something of his (handkerchief, military medal, etc.) and incorporate it into your bouquet, or wear a locket with his picture. -
I would leave it. My FI proposed on the anniversary of my grandmothers passing and I loved that he did. For one, he replaced a "bad" day with a good day. Now, 12/15 is the day we were engaged before its anything else. Above all, I felt like she was with me, up close and personal on "our" day (hers & mine). It is a special day for both my grandmother & me. She got to see the face of Jesus and I got the man of my dreams!
btw...we are date twins! Congrats & best wishes!
In your situation, its pretty appropriate being its "Memorial" day weekend. Very cool.
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Re: My Grandpa died on May 24th, 2013. My wedding date is May 24th, 2014. Should I change my date?
I agree with leaving it. Life is unpredictible and it's too hard to plan around everything. My cousin got married a few years ago and our great grandmother passed away the morning of the wedding (she had a stroke 2 days before). As painful as it was, everything was already in place. The one thing we found as a blessing was that our great grandmother's passing had brought everyone together, even those from out of state. They were all able to say good bye before she passed and then were able to attend my cousin's wedding. Just the way grandma always wanted her family to be...celebrating together.
Honor your grandfather (and any others who have passed) and celebrate the new life that you are starting.
And congratulations of your upcoming wedding!