Hi All - congrats on getting engaged! 10 months to go!!
My fiance and i are running into a little issue... kids at the wedding - from the beginning i said that i wanted this to be an adult only party, i feel like kids running around the dance floor changes the dynamic of the wedding. Anyway, he is getting a lot of push back from his family saying that if we aren't inviting the kids then we aren't coming - he really wants his family there - SO with that we came up with hiring a babysitter - at our venue there is a room that we can designate the "kids room" there are board games, xbox, movies ect - the kids can come to the ceremony and cocktail hour but then when the reception is starting they will go upstairs (no kids in the tent). Now I'm being told that this is also unacceptable and they aren't going to leave their children with a stranger. (note. the distance from the tent to the room is maybe 100 ft)
Im not trying to be mean but in my opinion we offered a compromise and that still isn't enough. I said that if they cant leave the kids at home and the babysitter is not ok either then dont come... if they really wanted to be there as much as we want them there then they would respect our wishes and either leave the kids at home or with the babysitter for 4 hours.
am i being mean? what should i do? is anyone else running into this issue?