I thought I'd give you ladies an update on the bridesmaidzilla issues I was having with my sister. So this past Saturday we all had an appointment for my mom, the bridesmaids, and MOH to get measured for their dresses and leave deposits on them.
It came to my understanding that my mom, my sister's daughter, AND my sister's husband yes she IS married spoke to her about being a brat and to chill out with thebridesmaidZILLA behaviors. You might ask why she was a brides"maid/matron" ....that was because of her wanting to be in control of our wedding and limiting her involvement was the best decision.
Well, Saturday, she was on time fr the appointment and very helpful and playful. She still said her usual quirky things, but was able to be focused on the task at hand AND paid the deposit for her gown and said she loves it ((even though it was not scandalous and overly "sexy."
I selected a long satin gown that was staples. It's royal blue and was gorgeous. My mother selected her gown as well and it was breathtakingly beautiful and elegant. My mom, sister, and I had a great time" we laughed and enjoyed the day.
THEN ..... They're all done with their fittings. My maid of honor had some "issues" arise! While we were all getting things done, she never showed for the appointment, the night before she sent a text saying, "we'll you need to reschedule because I don't feel like going it tomorrow..." I texted her back saying, well, that's your choice, however, were making a day out of spending time together with going to the boutique' cake tasting, and to lunch...
So Saturday came along...I get a phone call from the MOH. She's on her cell in her car, and yells, "I can't find this F-CKING place! My GPS keeps putting me at some F-CKING store." I then said, "remember it doesn't show up on GPSs and gave her the intersection and a store she's familiar with that's about 800 feet away.
She said, "yeah I know that place."
"So just go there and I'll come out and get you," I said.
But no. Since that was not on her GPS she yelled at me some more and said, "This is all your fault. Why the F-CK you go there anyway!!?"
This is when she yells, SH-T I'm being pulled over by the cops!" Then she hangs up.
I call and text her back about an hour later to see what was going on but didn't hear back. She texted me back about 1 1/2 hours later saying she had gotten a ticket for erratic driving. But, beingthatshehasahistory of being slammed by cops for being rude, she took it a step further and texted me saying, she went to the police station to file a complaint against the cop for being so "harsh" on her. It honestly,even though she has been my friend since 2nd grade, I can totally see how she got ticketed. She's at a point it's concerning me that she's becoming highly negative and out of control with how she interacts with me and others.
She finally texted me 2 1/2 hours later saying she's going to the boutique to get fitted and if we were still there. Our appointment was at 11am and it was 1:30 when she asked. I said, "Jane" everyone is done with their appointments. I did explain to them what happened and why you're late. They were understanding and said to let you know they will work with you and that you can just walk in. They seem like nice ladies. Now the rest of us had left the store by this time since "Jane" said she wasnt going to get fitted today (yes..one minute she is, then another, she's not). The rest of us left to get lunch. I texted her saying, "Jane, I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Please call me to let me know what you want to do."
So while my sister, mother,fiancé (he met us for lunch), and I were at lunch, I get a bunch of texts back to back from "Jane" saying, "you know what I don't like your message about me having a bad day...you're being a Bridezilla, F--CK you and F--CK your wedding. I went to try that dress on and it was a size 2! I couldn't get it on!!!!!"
(The dress was a size 6 but regardless. I also told her specifically in another text that all the dresses run small, but you can look at it to see how it looks. I searched for weeks, high and low for a shop that would accommodate her size 22 and they did.That's why I picked them. I explained that the purpose of the appointment was for everyone to be measured and make deposits)).
So apparently she yelled at them also about those dresses. I don't even know if she MADE the deposit because at this point, I don't want this kind of vibe surrounding the wedding.
After all her drama and nastiness, it was sweet to see my sister be supportive. She said, "all. You can do is laugh abut this...who gets ticketed on their way to a fitting? Only her, right?"
My sister made a snarky face then and said, well, I can always step up if you'd like...sometimes people surprise you while you're let down in other ways. I mean, it just seems like "Jane" has been nothing but negative and difficult in so many ways: refusing to wear shoes at the formal wedding's reception at the country club...downplaying the reception site, being contrary. I offered to have all the ladies in the party's hair styled bay professional stylist, she then says, " humph, I don't let just anybody touch my hair..."
I feel like enough is enough. I tight that would have been a nice gesture for my ladies and fun. Instead, I was called controlling. Anyone else have experiences of out of control wedding participants?