NER- BP Gifts

NYCBride2013 · June 2013

Hi Ladies- I know this question has been asked before but I was hoping to get some new perspectives.

What were the favorite BP gifts that you received or gave? I am trying to think outside of the box here but I am falling short!

STARMOON44 · June 2013

The ones that were special and specific to me. A beautiful cookbook from a location the bride visited. Toasting flutes she noticed I loved when I went registry shopping with her. A picture frame that totally suited my style.

Least favorite: personalized/monogramed anything. Not my style. Bridesmaids robes.

AddieCake · June 2013

The best gifts are the ones that are specifically FOR the individual. The best gift that *I* got is not necessarily going to be the best gift for your bridesmaid Susie.

manjermj · June 2013

I have only been a bridesmaid in 2 weddings and wasn't very excited for either gift mainly because it was 1. jewelry for the wedding day, 2. flip flops for the wedding day 3. all the same as the other bridesmaids. So when deciding on gifts for my girls, I tried to be a thoughtful as possible. They all had very different personalities, so I got them each individual gifts that suit their tastes.

MOH (The Traveler): New carry on Samsonite Suitcase

BM#1 (The Photographer): The new Polaroid Camera with lots of film

BM#2 (The Girly Girl): 2 pairs of Kate Spade earrings

BM#3 (The Sports lover): A Baltimore Ravens rug and desk set for her office and a pair of shorts

BM#4 (The Fashionista): A Michael Kors Wristlet

NYCBruin · June 2013

Shop like you would if you were buying a gift for your BM's birthdays. You don't have to get them all the same thing. The best BM gift I ever received was a really pretty metal bookmark with carvings and gemstones on it and a gift card to Barnes and Noble (I'm a total bookworm).

What are your friends interests/likes? Think a nice bottle of wine for your wine-lover friend, a statement necklace for your fashion-forward friend, a spa gift card for your friend who loves massages.

NYCBride2013 · June 2013

Thanks for your input ladies. I really want to do personalized gifts and I have some ideas for those but I have a large bridal party (9 BMs) and I am concerned with keeping the gifts even. 4 of the BM are my cousins and the 5 of us are very close and although they are adults, they often act like children and I fear that they will compare and complain

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AddieCake · June 2013

If they compare and complain, that says everything about them and nothing about you.

TheBaysideBride · June 2013

For my wedding they're getting awesome pearl necklaces bc I'm friends w the jewelry designer and am getting $1200 necklaces for $200. The necklaces are NOT for the wedding.

The best was a round silver velvet-lined jewelry container, very small like 2 inch diameter, engraved w/ my intials. I've used it for 15 years when I travel!! i didn't love it when i first got it but then started using it all the time.

Worst - shiz to wear for the wedding. That's to make the bride happy so everyone is matchy matchy, not the BMs, in my opinion....

Kate61487 · June 2013

I'm not totally anti-matching gifts as long as everyone would actually like them. Perhaps I'm just defensive of what we did, but all my girls raved to me about the coach bags we got them and I've seen them all use it many times since the wedding. and as very recent college grads or college students none of them were in a "when I see something I like I buy it" sort of place so the simple, neutral bags were a hit.

The BM gifts I've received were also the same across the board, but I liked them. A diamond tennis bracelet from my aunt/uncle (the 3 BM were their 3 nieces; all between 15 and 17 so none of us had anything similar and they were gorgeous and simple/classic). From my now-ex-SIL I received a lovely "friendship" frame that I still have (now with a pic of my BMs in it). I could have done without the monogramed bag and the flip flops, though...

NYCBride2013 · June 2013

Thanks for all of your help! I will keep thinking about it. I definitely don't want to do anything monogrammed or for the day of.

NYCBruin · June 2013

I don't think you should worry too much about BM comparing and complaining. IMO that would reflect poorly on them, not on you.

If you really are worried about it I think you could get everyone the same thing, but with nine BM I think it will be really really hard to find something that everyone will like.

Another option is to get each BM a gift certificate to someplace that suits her and a smaller gift to go with it. For example, spa gift card and a scented candle, movie ticket giftcard and a DVD, cookbook/kitchen accessory and giftcard to Sur La Table, teacup and giftcard to a fancy tea place, a wine stopper and a gift card for a wine store, etc. That way everyone gets the same "amount." You can keep things even, but also personalized.

erinlin25 · June 2013

I liked all the gifts I got--even the ones that were monogrammed, for they were not obnoxious and things I actually got use of afterwards. The times I got flip flops, I loved them--but I am a total flip flop girl, so it was right up my ally. All the jewelry was awesome too and again it was stuff that I could use again, and did use many times. I definitely agree though that you need to think of the individual and make sure what you get is going to be something THEY would like and get use of-- not everyone wants flip flops or a travel bag with their name on it.

4 of 5 of my girls love wine; are very girly (shoes, shopping, etc)-- I got them these cute wine holders that was a shoe. The shoes all were different colors/designs and brought out their personality and I matched it with their favorite wine and through in a cute bottle stopper and travel bottle opener. They loved them!

My SIL does not drink; she studies Biology--specifically Owls. I got her a cut tea and saucer set that had an owl design; with a cute tin that had owls on it, and tea scoops that were shaped liked Owls + a variety of teas-- because she loves making tea. she loved it.

The bracelets I got them were gorgeous too-- they all wore them at the wedding, although I did not ask them to. They easily can be worn after the wedding as well, so I knew it was worth the money. My sister in law wore hers this weekend on her date.

Think of them as individuals and buy something accordingly. It can be the same if they all like the same things, but stay away from things that you will waste your money on.

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