So, my partner and I are atheists, and we don't really believe marriage is "sacred". We are also both divorced, and while we take marriage very seriously, we both agree that a marriage is essentially just an arrangement that exists to serve the needs of the people involved. Since we can't see the future and we don't believe that divorce is unacceptable, we're uncomfortable saying things like "forever" or "always" or "until death" in our vows and readings. We don't want to make promises we don't
intend to keep have it within our power to make, but we also don't want our guests to wonder why we don't just wear black turtlenecks and smoke cloves instead of having a wedding. Help?