Ok to tell bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup?

sharbear130 · August 2012

Is it ok to ask my bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup, instead of hiring someone, when I'm planning to do my own as well? Is there a polite way to say this? Thanks!

HockeyFan4 · August 2012

also you cannot require them to have it professionally done and not pay for it.

sharbear130 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-to-tell-bridesmaids-to-do-their-own-hair-and-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fd7b39-88e0-4718-bd9c-7130c318ad29Post:448f18b0-c9a5-4ae1-8555-56e9b834900c">Re: Ok to tell bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup?</a>:
[QUOTE]It is okay not to require them to have it professionally done, if that is what you mean. In fact, it's usually preferred. However, if you're saying you want to tell them they are not allowed to have their hair and makeup professionally done at their own expense because YOU aren't having YOURS done, no that isn't okay.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks! Just to clarify, I meant that I can't afford to pay someone to do the hair and makeup for all my bridesmaids (i won't be paying for it for myself either). So they could either do it themselves or go to a professional at their own expense... I just wanted to let them know it's something I wouldn't be covering. How would I say that? </div>

AEPerpete · August 2012

Hey ladies, I will be doing my own hair and make up, so feel free to do your own too, or to go to get it done professionally. It's up to you.

Meegles4 · August 2012

Just say "I'm planning to do my hair on my own. But, you're welcome to do your hair yourself or have it done professionally."

I had mine done professionally, but didn't require it of my BMs. I just told them where I was getting it done that morning and if they wanted to join me they were welcome, or they could do their own thing. Half got it done with me (they paid for themselves), half did it some other way (either themselves or with their own stylist).

MrsGandthebeag · August 2012

I don't think you need to say anything. If they ask, just say, oh, money's tight so I'm doing my own. You can do whatever you'd like.

HockeyFan4 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I don't think it needs an announcement beyond "by the way guys, just wanted to assure you that you can do whatever you like with your hair and makeup." Specifically saying "I'm not paying for it" in any way seems brash and kind of insulting since it implies that the BMs would be expecting you to pay for it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

this.

sharbear130 · August 2012

Thanks for the responses! Yeah, that's why I was wondering how to say it, because I didn't want to actually say anything about money. But I also wanted to give them a heads up because a lot of brides provide a stylist to their bridal party, so I didn't want anyone to expect it and then be surprised to have to do their own. So I'll just mention that I'll be doing mine myself and that they can do their own with me or they're free to go to a professional. Thanks for the advice!

ColorMeChic · August 2012

Just wondering how important it is for you in regards to the pictures?

If you want the pictures to be fantastic, and you don't want to spend big bucks, here's my suggestion as a professional hair and makeup artist:

1. Check out your local beauty school for talented alumni. They might be willing to do it for portfolio credits as without having a license it's a no no to charge. Work something out with your photographer. A small gratuity to cover the cost of gas, supplies would be a kind gesture.

Although they may not be saavy in lighting techniques and other technical aspects that professionals have learned, you'll have uniformity and continuity in reference to the image you want to project. Besides... who knows what kind of surprise one of your bridesmaids or family member might spring on you! Happy Wedding and the Best to you!

Carolina
Makeup Mavens on Location

OwningAHome1981 · August 2012

I don't think you need to say anything. It's understood that when you're in a BP you pay for these things yourselves.

Unless of of course you're requesting a specific wayt to wear to their hair, then you have to pay but if you don't care what they do, then it's on them.

HTH

MyUserName1 · August 2012

Owning, that's not helpful even a little bit. She's not expecting the BP to pay for anything. AND it's not understood that when you're in a BP you pay for these things yoruselves. I don't know where you got this idea that if you want a specific style, that you pay, but if you don't want a specific style, they pay. That makes no sense.

Try reading the OP before posting. Or just not giving terrible advice. that'd be good too.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I agree with prior posts, let the girls know your plans so they can make their own plans to either do it themselves or make an appointment with their stylist. Just let them know what time you'll need them ready so if they make an appointment they make it early enough.

I'm getting married on 11/3 & told my girls I'm getting my hair & makeup professional done at where I get my haircut. I told them if any of them wanted to come along, let me know and I would make sure they had a stylist available & gave them the prices of what it would cost. I let it be their call if they wanted to it themselves, where I'm going, or their own salon. But they knew what to expect which is I think the big thing.

tmwishful · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-to-tell-bridesmaids-to-do-their-own-hair-and-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fd7b39-88e0-4718-bd9c-7130c318ad29Post:6adc1696-d4da-47c2-bdb9-7be8290d3731">Re: Ok to tell bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think you need to say anything. If they ask, just say, oh, money's tight so I'm doing my own. You can do whatever you'd like.
Posted by MrsGandthebeag[/QUOTE]

<div>That's exactly what I did and my maids were fine with it.</div>

baird32 · September 2012

I told my girls that I'm having my hair done professionaly. If they want to join, awesome. If not, also awesome. My sister is coming with me while the other 2 knows someone who can do their hair. It made them all happy that they had a choice.

loca4pook · September 2012

I don't get why you care how they get their hair and makeup done? I suck at that kinda thing so I always get my done professionally for important events. As long as they don't expect YOU to pay, I think you have zero say in the matter.

sharbear130 · September 2012

I don't actually care how they get their hair and makeup done. What I care about is that they are aware that I can't afford to hire a stylist to do their hair and makeup. Whether they choose to do it themselves or hire someone to do it, is fine with me either way. I was just asking with assistance in whether it was okay not to provide a stylist to them and how to tell them that I wouldn't be able to pay for it, but I think I didn't word my original question very well.

Anyway, thanks everyone for your helpful responses!

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