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NIECES AND NEPHEWS ONLY???

jchambers4jchambers4 member
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We are having a semi-small wedding. (100 guests)

We are very close to our nieces and nephews!
3 Nephews  --  ages; 16, 13, 2
5 Nieces  --  ages: 13, 8, 7, 7, 3

They are absolutely going to be at our wedding and reception.

 

However, we are on a tight budget and I would prefer if other guests didn't bring children.
I would like it to only be immediate family children that know us!

Is this rude or ok?

 



 

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Re: NIECES AND NEPHEWS ONLY???

  • bakeriebakerie member
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    That's perfectly acceptable.
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  • harper0813harper0813 member
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    That's just fine. Just address the invitations to those who are invited and if a guest adds a child, call them an explain that the invitation was meant only for the parents and you hope they can still make it.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    This is fine.  How you notify other guests that their children aren't invited is either okay or not depending on how you do it.

    The correct way to do it is to list only those persons in the household who are invited on an invitation envelope.  No "Adults Only" or "No Children" messages. 

    If someone's RSVP includes someone who wasn't invited, whether that's their children or someone else, then you need to call that person and say something along the lines of "I'm sorry, but there seems to be some confusion.  Only you and your SO were invited.  We can't accommodate your children."  And if they threaten not to come unless they can bring their uninvited guests, you reply, "I'm sorry to hear you won't be coming.  We'll miss you."  But you don't back down and extend invitations to their children.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    You have a clear cutoff, which is good. It's when people start picking and choosing where people get upset. 
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  • jchambers4jchambers4 member
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    Thanks everyone for your advice...really appreciated!!

     

    @scribe95  By Immediate family children I mean my sisters kids and my Fiancée's brothers kids.
    My cousins kids & family friends kids don't really know us, so that's what I meant when I said immediate family/kids we know.

     

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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Yup, it's fine. 
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  • jchambers4jchambers4 member
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    Thanks all for you support!!! 

     

    Now if I were having a casual backyard BBQ type wedding reception I so wouldn't care if kids came, but @ $25 a plate.... I just can't!!  LOL

     

    Thanks all!!!!

     

     

     

     

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  • NOLAbridealmostNOLAbridealmost member
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    Perfectly allowed.
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    I'm doing the exact same thing - cut-off is my nephews and my new niece.  And I think my one cousin has a newborn, so any nursing children are allowed. 

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  • jchambers4jchambers4 member
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    Thank you all for your support!!

    I posted this same question on Weddingbee.com and got ripped apart...LOL!!!

     

    I like The Knot crowd much better!!!  :)

     

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