Help! I dont know about you but i'm having a real hard tine choosing my final bridesmaid. Right now I have my very best friend as MOH, my sister, my friend who is getting married 2 months before me (I am also in her bridal party) and I have 1 spot left and 2 friends to choose from.
Friend 1 - We have been firends since grade 6. And we've been through it all! Travels, fights and finding ourselves becoming grown ups. I've seen her through her depression, 2 bad break-ups and moving away for school. She's helped me through numerous breakups, is always honest and willing to stand up for what she believes in. She is now seeing all her friends getting engaged and finding someone to love and feels the pressure of choosing school over relationships. After having a couple "when is it going to be my turn" conversations I know she is truly happy for me and getting to a better place herself. Despite not knowing whether she is a bridesmaid or not, she has been so helpful and supportive so far. Which is more than i would ever ask for.
Friend 2 - We met when I first moved away from home, took me in as a roomate (with her now husband) when I had nowhere to go, and helped me through my breakup and makeup with my now fiance. Things to a turn for the worse when she moved to a posh neighbourhood with a big house and got engaged. I dont put up with "I'm better than you" attitude but I stood by her when all her friends turned away even when i wanted to walk I had made a commitment to her to be her MOH and helped her plan her non traditional wedding. SHe recently lost her job and has been humbled by the recession and things have just started return to normal for us after we commited to stay more open and honest with eachother and our friendship.
She is now happily pregnant with her first! I had decided on friend 1 and tried to have a convo with her but when told me she would be heartbroken if she wasn't a part of my day, I cracked. I dont want her to feel the financial pressure of being a bridesmaid and a new mom (her child will be 5 months at my wedding) And to be brutally honest I dont want to have to worry about baby on my day. That sounds so harsh, believe me I know.
I dont know what to do, I'm not a mom and she is the first of my group of friends to have a baby so I really dont know what the first 5 months is like. Would you really want to be a bridesmaid and a new mom? Help!