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just a question

LeciaBLeciaB member
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Ladies so I was just thinking so ..our church is small and pookie..man-man and all dem

want to be invited but it is only for close family and friends..this has been the Misters church since he

was born and I know they all want to come (sidenote we are not getting married at the chruch but pastor is doing the ceremony)

so I was thinking about doing something extra for the church members.. would having like a mini cermoney after church with cake and punch

be extra or super showboaty? or do people not really care about the wedding and if they miss it oh well


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  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    LeciaB I THINK A SMALL SOMETHING SOMETHING WOULD BE FINE CONSIDERING ITS ALL ABOUT YOU AND THE MR ID SAY GO FOR IT AND IF THEY DONT COME O WELL....lol SEND ME SOME CAKE

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  • drmass2013drmass2013
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    I say go for it!! 
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  • leatbaleatba member
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    Girl I was wondering the same thing. Our church is sooo small and we aren't getting married there either. I really wanted to have cake and punch after Sunday service but didn't know how we'll it would go over. I was going to ask my Pastor what he thought about it at our last counseling session
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    I don't think you need to have another ceremony. If it's in the church, all members of the congregation are generally welcome anyway. It is nice and customary to host cake and punch in the church basement afterward for all, and then head to your reception for the invited guests.

    Since you say it isn't at your church, I think it would be a bit much to have a second ceremony since you'd already be married, but it's up to you, of course.
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  • LeciaBLeciaB member
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    @misstira I got you on the cake side note I was thinking about the carrot cake you were talking about so I had to go to publix and buy a cake..thanks date twin @drmass2013 for the support lol @leatba I was thinking the exact same thing but I don't know how it would come off or how to do it and it not look like I'm a jerk. Thanks @Blue_Bird for the input.. Btw I think you are a newbie around here so girlfriend don't be shy introduce yourself we would love to get to know you better . :)

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  • drmass2013drmass2013
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    @LeciaB why am I just realizing that you said Man Man and dem omg I'm dying laughing lol you can send over some of that cake my way as well lol 
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  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    YAYYY CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE--Rihanna voice lol

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  • CreoleBride30CreoleBride30 member
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    @LeciaB Okay, maybe I'm just a little slow tonight or I'm really tired, but I don't understand the question.  Are you wanting to get married (in another place) and have his church members (ones that's not invited to the reception and/or ceremony) come to a small reception at his church after you two get married...like on the same day or on another day as hubby & wife? 

    I need more background info to make a final decision! LOL! 

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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    LeciaB, my pleasure. You're right, I don't often post in the African-American board. I tend to post more in Etiquette and Wedding Party. I was a Baltimore bride two years ago, and am happy to meet some new ladies. Everyone is very supportive! Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials. :-)
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  • LeciaBLeciaB member
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    sorry for not being clear cha .. ok so we would get married on saturday not at church.. bc the church is too small for all the people... and pastor usually the following sunday after people gets married he makes an announcement in church.. so I was thinking maybe do like a little ceremony after church or at the end of church..and then have like cake and punch but I feel like that might kind of be showing off.. so I am not sure..hth

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  • CreoleBride30CreoleBride30 member
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    No problem @LeciaB .  I just wanted to make sure I understood before I answered :-)

    Okay, I don't think anyone would take it as showing off, but I'm not sure if it's necessary.  If I am understanding correctly, some or maybe most of these people at the church will NOT be in attendance at the ceremony and/or reception on Saturday, correct?  

    If they are not, and you are doing this out the kindness of your heart, it turns into a "meet and greet" with cake and punch.  I understand how the smaller churches are, and the little older ladies want to meet you and love on you, so I truly understand where you are coming from, but...once again...it may not be necessary.  

    I definitely don't think you will need to do another ceremony...if anything at all, do the cake and punch and meet the sweet little elderly ladies and those men gonna want to kiss all on you girl!!! LOL!!

    I need to think on this one a little more bc I do understand where you are coming from with wanting to involve his church members that could not make it to the wedding.  

    Also, what do you mean in your OP that "if they miss it oh well"  Are the church peeps invited to the wedding or not? 

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  • LeciaBLeciaB member
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    edited June 2013

    Naw the church folk can't get the invite like I'm not doing it for gifts or anything it's more of a thing they know we have been dating for years and they want to see. Him (more so than me) get married but In my mind I can't figure out how to do it and not seem like. A jerk so maybe we will just let pastor make the announcement and call it a day any who ill be so excited bc he will be my husband by then :)

     

    cha what I ment if they miss it.. the announcement and potential cake and punch..

    I am kind of leery about the cake and punch because the Mister's cousin made a big production over a baby christening.. and catered dinner and had massive cakes for the church


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  • drmass2013drmass2013
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    @LeciaB why am I just realizing that you said Man Man and dem omg I'm dying laughing lol you can send over some of that cake my way as well lol. The production over the baby's christening puts me in mind of the Real Housewives of NJ, they had a christening and I really thought it was a wedding reception with all the food and decor they had.
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