Background Information: My father left my mother while I was a young child for my step-mother. My step-mom was my father's mistress for quite some time before my mother found out, so there are obviously some hard feelings there.
I have accepted that my step-mom is a part of my life, and I have no problem including her as a guest at the wedding as well as including her name on the program. My step-mom has already picked out a fancy dress to wear to the wedding, which bothers me because I know she wants to stand out.
I know that it would hurt my mother's feeling if I gave a corsage to my step-mom (even if it was more modest than hers) or had her walk in as part of the processional (seating of the mothers). It's very important to me that my mom feel like she is the mother of the bride and receive that attention because she has always been a loving and faithful mother. I feel that she has put up with a lot of disappointment from what happened in the past and has handled it well, so I feel that she deserves to be the only one recognized as mother of the bride. Thoughts?