My friend is engaged and we have been talking non-stop about wedding plans. She has no date yet because her d-bag FI refuses to talk to her about the wedding at all. She has major relationship issues they she refuses to deal with, but that's another story for another time. She also has OCD and anxiety issues which makes it impossible for her to make decisions. I try to help her with things but its like nothing I say matters because she is incapable of settling on an Answer for anything. Lately she has become rather Zilla-ish because of it. She gets all worked up over things that do not matter (such as what color her mom will be wearing) and when I tell her that's not something she should be concerned with, she freaks out even more and does days of research on MOB dresses.
She invited me to go dress shopping with her (she has ONE dress imagined in her mind and gets upset when nothing matches her exact description). I agreed to go but I am starting to worry she will ask me to be a BM someday. Obviously, with no wedding date, she hasn't picked a WP yet and it may be a while till she does. But I really do not want to be THAT involved in her wedding. I do not mind helping her or just having wedding chat, but I know how she is and can see her becoming a Zilla very quickly. Should I stop helping her so I do not seem like I want to be a BM? I feel like I am leading her on to believe that I want to be in her wedding.... Whenever that may be.