Elopong followed by cocktail reception wording?

Re: Elopong followed by cocktail reception wording?

• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  How is that for wording? We're getting married at the courthouse with just a good friend as a witness. I want to make sure our guests know it's drinks and snacks only (and Cupcakes!), but also that it's important that they come celebrate with us.

  
  

  Should I nix the reply by and/or website?

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  Also, I don't know what kind of dress code/formality to call this shindig...

  It'll be wearing my $200 wedding dress I bought on clearance 5 years ago (when he proposed) and he'll probably be wearing a suit he rents.

  Obviously, we won't be having fancy dressed attendants and our parents are not contributing. We will be providing corsages for the moms and boutineers for the dad's and our witness.

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• itzMS member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  Since it occurs on the same day, I think listing the same date twice looks bizzare. Stage's wording is definitely a better option.

  Also, serving alcoholic beverages with little to no food is never a good plan. Cocktails are good. Cupcakes are good. But not if those are the only things you'll be having.

  At least consider having a selection of hot appetizers, as well as a cheese tray, a fruit tray...you get the idea.

  I would base what I wore to your event on #1, the time of day and #2, the formality of your venue.

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• libby2483 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  PPs have good suggestions.  Another thing is that invitations are always written in third person (they), never first person (we, us).

  
  

  And ditto itzMS with supplementing cupcakes with a few light snacks like cheese, fruit, or veggie trays and maybe a few hot appetizers.

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  We'll be serving fruit and veggie trays, cheese and meat trays with ctackers, a bread sith dipping sauce trays, and finger sandwhiches. Of course, there will be water, pop, iced tea and lemonade.as well as the alcohol. As far as the ceremony goes, the wedding will be civil at the courthouse and then I am thinking of having my man participate in a handfasting/non-denominational civil ceremny for the rest of our friends and family at the reception.

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  *Spiritual ceremony. I apologize for the typos, I'm writing from my phone at work.

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• itzMS member

  

  June 2013

  Nix0318 said:

  We'll be serving fruit and veggie trays, cheese and meat trays with ctackers, a bread sith dipping sauce trays, and finger sandwhiches. Of course, there will be water, pop, iced tea and lemonade.as well as the alcohol. As far as the ceremony goes, the wedding will be civil at the courthouse and then I am thinking of having my man participate in a handfasting/non-denominational civil ceremny for the rest of our friends and family at the reception.

  Skip the bolded. You'll already be married, so there's no need to put on a "show" for your friends and family.

  The snacks you are serving sound good.
  

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  I wanted to have my mother and his father join our hands in a. Handfasting. Why pay an officiant to ome out to us when it would be purely spiritual,? i'm willing to bet the justice of the peace i s not ordained in pagan litergy.

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• itzMS member

  

  June 2013

  Nix0318 said:

  I wanted to have my mother and his father join our hands in a. Handfasting. Why pay an officiant to ome out to us when it would be purely spiritual,? i'm willing to bet the justice of the peace i s not ordained in pagan litergy.

  You're still paying the JOP, correct?

  Why not pay your pagan officiant to just legally marry you if that's your belief system?
  

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  I don't have a pagan officiant in my area. The closest pagan relations nearby are hard core druids, which I am not. I'm a very eclectic pagan. Not to mention my sweetheart is a hardcore atheist. He would do something a little pagan oriented just to please me, but I don't want him or our guests to feel uncomfortable on a day celebrating our union of families and friends! 

  
  

  Thanks so much for all your help knotties!

  The double date in there was driving me nuts too. Obviously it's not going to be a super formal event, but I would like to keep it as classy as we can!

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• HobokensFury member

  

  June 2013

  Why not just invite everyone to the courthouse and host the reception soon after?
  

   
   

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  June 2013

  Is the courthouse considered eloping? But anyway, it sounds like you're keeping some of your loved ones from witnessing your marriage so you can save $200 on an officiant.
  
  We're agnostic/atheist and our officiant is catholic but she's doing the ceremony our way. I just made sure she was gender neutral and sexual orientation neutral first.

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  My fiance is not a fan of attention. He wouldn't even dance with me at his brother's wedding! I'm working really hard on him to have a first dance with me. And budget is huge! We just decided to get married and have a super small budget. 3000. Period.

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• eevieemariee

  

  June 2013

  I consider it eloping. Where we live you have to have a license for 24 (maybe 48) hous before you can marry, so it's not like we could just pop in and get married at the drop of a dime. Yeah, we're planning a ceremony (you kinda have to if advance notice is required) not to mention it'll just be us and a witness (also required by law). With those stipulations, any quickly planned wedding in our area is borderline eloping. Also, without the fanfare and show of our families and friends... so yes. Maybe not definitively, but technically. Lol. Yeah, we're planning aparty/reception, but it's planned hours after the ceremony, and with 3.5 months notice. Tomato/Tomatoe.

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