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Wedding announcement for people not invited?

acanon526acanon526 member
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I am having a VERY hard time getting my guest list down. I have a very large family, and unfortunately I can not afford to invite everyone nor do I want a wedding with 200+ people. I want to let the people who were not invited know that I still thought of them and somehow included them.   I have thought about sending an announcement type of letter with either an engagment photo or a photo from the wedding day. 

I want the wording to be very clear that I am not asking for gifts. So maybe saying something like "Mike and Allison plan to be married on ____ date in ___city during a private, intimate ceremony with close family and friends. While we are disappointed we could not include everyone in the day, we wanted you to share in our joy.We only ask that you send positive thoughts and prayers to us as we enter into our new journey together." 

Any ideas on the wording? Would you be offended to get an announcement like this? Should it go out before or after the wedding? Feedback would be helpful. Thank you! 


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Re: Wedding announcement for people not invited?

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
    Knottie Warrior 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    edited June 2013
    It should go out after the wedding. 

    I'd just use:

    Bride
    and
    Groom
    have the honor of announcing
    their marriage
    on
    Date
    Year (spelled out)
    City, State

    Don't mention anything about "private, intimate ceremony with close family and friends" because this makes it clear to the recipients that they don't count as "close family and friends" enough to be invited to a private, intimate ceremony (kind of "nya, nya") and don't mention "disappointed we could not include everyone" or ask for "positive thoughts and prayers."  These words evoke unhappy emotions that I doubt you want associated with your wedding, which should be a happy occasion.
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  • OtterJOtterJ member
    Second Anniversary 10 Comments 5 Love Its
    I agree that mentioning that only close family or friends are invited is a bad idea...it implies that the people you're sending announcements to aren't close. 

    You could just send a standard wedding announcement, or if there are name/address changes, you could send a post-wedding "we've moved" card that will keep people in the loop about your life changes, without making it seem like you're asking for something.
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