I am having a VERY hard time getting my guest list down. I have a very large family, and unfortunately I can not afford to invite everyone nor do I want a wedding with 200+ people. I want to let the people who were not invited know that I still thought of them and somehow included them. I have thought about sending an announcement type of letter with either an engagment photo or a photo from the wedding day.
I want the wording to be very clear that I am not asking for gifts. So maybe saying something like "Mike and Allison plan to be married on ____ date in ___city during a private, intimate ceremony with close family and friends. While we are disappointed we could not include everyone in the day, we wanted you to share in our joy.We only ask that you send positive thoughts and prayers to us as we enter into our new journey together."
Any ideas on the wording? Would you be offended to get an announcement like this? Should it go out before or after the wedding? Feedback would be helpful. Thank you!