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Shower invite question

hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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So I was asked to pull my list together for shower invites, and I have one person I am unsure of and I am wondering what your thoughts are.

Here is the situation:

FI's dad only has 1 living relative - his sister who lives in MI. FI and I have been together for over 7 years and I have met her maybe 4 times. She used to drive a lot, but has recently had some medical problems that prevent her from being on the road for long distances. 

We are inviting her and a +1 to the wedding (she was widowed within the past two years so I am iffy on the +1 too, but if she comes she will literally only know FI's dad, mom and brothers and no one else so I want her to have the option of bringing a friend). I don't think she would be interested in coming to the shower at all, I don't think she will want to travel for it and also it's not her thing from what I have gathered. 

Do I send her an invite or no?
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Re: Shower invite question

  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    alisonmarie658 said:
    I think because she's out of town (you're also WI, correct?) I would skip the invite in this situation.
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  • rustytammyrustytammy member
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    I am sending an invite to my FSIL.  All of my FIL's live in IL and we are in CA.  I didn't want my FMIL to ask her if she received one and I hadn't sent one.  I told my MOH that she wouldn't be attending but to please send one.  
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    The thing I worry about sending the invite, because i'm 99.9% sure she won't come, is that it looks gift grabby?
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  • kcnolan21kcnolan21 member
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    Better to be invited and for her to decline then to hurt her feelings for not being invited.
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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    I agree with Cooper - send her an invite. She can decline. It can't hurt to include her.
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  • shannie11shannie11 member
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    I have mutiple family members coming up from Florida but I did not send any of them invites to the shower.  I was also afraid it would look gift grabby.
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  • fearlessbrideMIfearlessbrideMI member
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    I have 8 OOT ladies and I am sending shower invites to 4 of them because I know they would be offended to not get one, even though I know they won't come. The other 4 won't care if they get one and won't come so it works out
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