FB drama- NER

wiki8 · June 2013

I occasionally think facebook might be the worst invention ever. I love it, I really do, but some people are just not appropriate on there. I am in my twenties, and whenever I see someone airing their dirty laundry on facebook, I definitely side eye it. I know way too many people who discuss every detail of their relationship on facebook, and it makes me cringe.

Now, FI's aunt is just taking this to a whole new level. She is twice our age, and I would have hoped mature enough to know better, but that is not the case. FI's family is having a decent amount of problems right now dealing with infidelity and backstabbing. It is a terrible situation, and I feel the parties involved are definitely at fault and shouldn't have done what they did, but it happened and it isn't really my business anyway. FI's aunt and uncle have been blasting FI's dad and the other party involved (mother of uncle's children) on facebook non-stop. They have been saying extremely insulting, degrading things I just could never imagine saying, and have probably made over 30 posts in total. It's gotten to the point both have made threats of physical violence to FI's mom and the mother of the children. At first I was reading them with my jaw on the floor, but then I decided I just didn't want any part of this and deleted them both. I just can't fathom how anyone thinks this is okay behavior.

(For anyone who remembers, this is the aunt who threw her own engagement party with the vase asking for money to fund the wedding...)

I am really hoping this all blows over, seeing there is still so much time until our wedding. At this point in time, I am really regretting sending that STD.

misssunshine17 · June 2013

People are absolutely absurd on facebook. It's seriously a shit show. People brag, whine and complain like crazy.

Kate61487 · June 2013

I have a FB poster who posts almost every damn day about some variation of ex-gf / kid / I miss her / she won't let me be a dad (but there are tons of cell phone pics of the kid so he seems to be seeing him at some point...). But then every other post is about "we're meeting tonight to discuss; I won't be posting what we talk about on here b/c it's between us". Seriously, dude? I mean.. if it's between you, why are you telling us about it at all?

jlm9113 · June 2013

My absolute favorite FB posts are the deliberately vague ones that indicate that something's wrong but don't say what that something is.

Seriously. I'm not going to beg them for information. AWs.

misssunshine17 · June 2013

Oh yeah, @jlm9113 my favorite is a vaugebooking status, then when someone asked what is wrong or whatever and the person says they don't want to talk about it. *eyeroll*

plumander · June 2013

People never realize how public Facebook is. I had a friend whose aunt said she was in a relationship with another man while still technically married to my friend's uncle. When my friend brought this up to the aunt, she was a total bitch and unfriended her.

r&c14 · June 2013

My sister posts EVERYTHING on facebook. And she is friends with every single family member that has a facebook too. It's annoying.. especially when these people ask me or my parents about it. She also posts the non flattering pictures of me and tags me in them. Now that's really annoying!

NerdyLucy · June 2013

My newsfeed is full of "I hate people who l love drama!" or "I hate drama!" or "Why is my life full of drama?"

I don't think they realize that they feed into the drama by making such proclamations. Furthermore, it seems that half of the time, they're the ones that created it in the first place.

kerbohl · June 2013

My FI likes to post misleading things on FB to mess with people. For example, he once had his status as "No one wished me a happy birthday today." Well yeah - because it wasn't his birthday. It sometimes leads to hilarity.
I'm reluctant to put any personal stuff up on FB. No one on FB really cares about how I'm feeling. Sounds a little blunt, but if I wanted to talk about my feelings to people, I'll do a face-to-face, and FB should never have replaced that kind of contact, yet it has. You shouldn't have to go to FB to see if someone is happy or sad or on their fifth boyfriend of the month etc . . .

jlm9113 · June 2013

xt5678 said:

jlm9113 said:

My absolute favorite FB posts are the deliberately vague ones that indicate that something's wrong but don't say what that something is.

Seriously. I'm not going to beg them for information. AWs.

This. OR ones that say "I'm not the type to get political on here, but..."/"I don't typically like to call attention to myself, but..."/"I don't like to be gushy on here, but..." or some form of that. CLEARLY if you have to say you aren't that way, YOU ARE.

Sorry, I don't normally get heated about stuff, but that just gets to me ;-)

My rule of thumb is that if a sentence starts with a "blah blah blah, but" I'm not going to post it to FB.

jlm9113 · June 2013

misssunshine17 said:

Oh yeah, @jlm9113 my favorite is a vaugebooking status, then when someone asked what is wrong or whatever and the person says they don't want to talk about it. *eyeroll*

That is my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE response to one of those vague FB posts.

You don't want to talk about it but you want everyone to ask what's wrong? Then shut up.

audreyecu61 · June 2013

NerdyLucy said:

My newsfeed is full of "I hate people who l love drama!" or "I hate drama!" or "Why is my life full of drama?"

I don't think they realize that they feed into the drama by making such proclamations. Furthermore, it seems that half of the time, they're the ones that created it in the first place.

Here here, agree with you totally.

NYCBruin · June 2013

Small confession, I sorta love it when people post most of the things PPs have mentioned. The only people that I'm friends with on FB that do it are people I'm not really close to (like people from HS that I haven't seen in years). Since the drama doesn't actually affect me, it's can be fairly entertaining to read through. It's like reality TV but with people I know. Plus it's a good reminder of how lucky I am that my closest friends don't make passive aggressive posts about me when we're having an argument.

NerdyLucy · June 2013

NYCBruin said:

Small confession, I sorta love it when people post most of the things PPs have mentioned. The only people that I'm friends with on FB that do it are people I'm not really close to (like people from HS that I haven't seen in years). Since the drama doesn't actually affect me, it's can be fairly entertaining to read through. It's like reality TV but with people I know. Plus it's a good reminder of how lucky I am that my closest friends don't make passive aggressive posts about me when we're having an argument.

I hate to admit it, but I get what you're saying. It's like real-life Jerry Springer Show.

Weezy56 · June 2013

There's a girl I'm FB friends with who lets it ALL out. Her and her mom call each other bitches and exchange fuck you's when arguing on her wall, she'll air the dirty laundry about how her daughter's father is a dead beat and how ugly his new GF is, etc etc. I'm almost embarrassed for her but she should know better

NYCBruin · June 2013

NerdyLucy said:

NYCBruin said:

Small confession, I sorta love it when people post most of the things PPs have mentioned. The only people that I'm friends with on FB that do it are people I'm not really close to (like people from HS that I haven't seen in years). Since the drama doesn't actually affect me, it's can be fairly entertaining to read through. It's like reality TV but with people I know. Plus it's a good reminder of how lucky I am that my closest friends don't make passive aggressive posts about me when we're having an argument.

I hate to admit it, but I get what you're saying. It's like real-life Jerry Springer Show.

Exactly. I'm simultaneously horrified/embarrassed for the poster and amused/embarrassed for myself for being amused.

Anastasia517 · June 2013

My sister and I were once belittled and called names on Facebook by our relatives after she vague-booked. They didn't think we had the right to be upset that nobody contacted us for 3.5 days after our father was hospitalized. It was not as fun being the train wreck as it is observing it. (We deleted stuff at least, unlike the people I have on Facebook for the sheer entertainment they provide.)

LAM524 · June 2013

FB doesnt suck...some people using fb suck! I has a very horrible fb smear against me. My FMIL passed away about 7 yrs ago. My now ex FIL had never paid a bill, he was in his 70's and had a language barrier, so I agreed to take care of paying the bills for him (he also moved in with us).

I had 3 personal accounts, 2 business accounts and his 3 accounts to manage. When his cell phone contract expired, we put him on our acct. We also shared a storage debt. Sometimes, I would pay one bill from my personal acct. and the other from his. It was a wash. (he knew this) Sometimes, I would call the payments in (very rare) or pay them online. After 2 yrs he moved out and got his own cell service. All that was in common was our storage bill. A few months after he was moved, I called in a payment for my cell phone bill. It was an automated system, and when asked if I wanted to use payment method on file, I said yes (not realizing it was his info on file).

One morning my phone woke me up with massive amounts of notifications from fb. My ex BIL gf had written a horrible status. Something to the effect that her poor, old, helpless, on a fixed income, FIL, who just lost the love of his life, was ripped off my his ex DIL (I separated 6 months before he moved out). She went on to say that "this man trusted his ex DIL and she had been in the family for 30 yrs. "He loved her and even lived with her and she stole from him. What an F***ing bitch!" I was confused and mortified once I realized that she had to be posting about me. The comments back from strangers & family were horrible! She literally sat there as they asked questions or commented, she responded. I immediately signed on under my younger sons account and deleted her then called my ex. This went on the entire weekend. On Monday I went to his bank...looked at his statement and realized there was a deduction in the same amount as my cell phone bill! I called the cell service, we figured it out, and I had them reverse the payment out, removed his bill pay info and I paid him back.

I loved and adored my FFIL (I still do) I would never ever "steal" from him. Ever! My phone, email & fb was blown up my family members for about 2 weeks. (I ended up having to delete my ex's entire family) Mind you, I was in the early process of a divorce! No matter how I explained it was an accident, or how I rectified it, it didnt matter...only to a few. When I called my ex FIL and explained, he even said I know you would never hurt me in this way. Im still not sure if he understands my explanation of how it happened.

I was hurt, humiliated and so embarrassed. (A part of me still is). It was awful. An awful that didnt have to happen on such a huge scale, actually at all. Posting like she did, putting it out for the entire family to see, ruined a big part of my life. Today, only one couple from this family I was apart of for 30 yrs speaks to me, and will be coming to my wedding.

Sometimes I fantasize about getting even with her...but my "good angel" wins out all the time.

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