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Thoughts~Military wedding

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I know this is more for the Military Bride forum, but there's no one there. So, I need some opinions.....Groom is in the Army, 2 years in, no deployments. Best man is in the Army as well. 2 other Groomsmen, including the Grooms brother ( 8 years navy, 4 deployments and a Navy seal) are in the Military as well. Groom is wearing his uniform and so is the Best Man. The other service members (including his brother) are asked to wear a Tux along with the non-military affiliated so that its not mix matched. Opinions? Cool or not cool.
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    vk2204vk2204 member
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    LingerLonger1 said:
    I don't like it.  If they're military they should be allowed to wear their dress uniforms.  Who cares if they aren't all the same branch?  The fact that they all serve is huge and should be celebrated/noticeable.

    I 100% agree with Linger
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    itzMSitzMS member
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    All military should get the option for dress uniform. It will honestly not matter if the non-military groomsmen are in tuxes or suits while the other gentlemen wear dress uniform.
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    artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    Tuxes and dress uniforms are equivalent in formality. They will not be mismatched. (Sorry, 'mix matched' is just wrong.)
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    My brother is Army.  He escorted me down the aisle and wore his Mess Dress uniform (short coat).  The groom & GM were all in white dinner jackets.  It looked just fine.  I was actually afraid he would outshine me :)

    My other brother is retired Navy and could have worn his dress uniform if he wanted to.  I would have been thrilled, but it was too cost prohibitive for him to get everything (because he's retired he didn't have all the accoutrements and stuff that fit).

    Also, keep in mind if they all wear their uniforms you'll save on flowers.  They are not allowed to wear bouts on their uniforms. 

     

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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    cooper0314 said:
    I know this is more for the Military Bride forum, but there's no one there. So, I need some opinions.....Groom is in the Army, 2 years in, no deployments. Best man is in the Army as well. 2 other Groomsmen, including the Grooms brother ( 8 years navy, 4 deployments and a Navy seal) are in the Military as well. Groom is wearing his uniform and so is the Best Man. The other service members (including his brother) are asked to wear a Tux along with the non-military affiliated so that its not mix matched. Opinions? Cool or not cool.
    ASU's are only used for formal events. I think it's total BS that you're asking the Navy brother to wear a tux. ESPECIALLY because he already owns an incredibly expensive uniform, I think it would be nice if you aren't asking him to go drop $80+ on a tux rental. They should wear their uniforms proudly if they'd like to.

    Do you realize how similar Army and Navy dress blues are? The mix-matching wont matter in the slightest. 

    ETA: I'm marrying Army. I've seen tons of mixed uniforms at weddings. It looks fine. I know we'll have Army, AF, and Navy in our wedding party. 
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    I think it would look awesome for all of them to be in their dress blues!

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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    FI is in a wedding tomorrow. All the groomsmen are Army, but were told they had to go rent tuxes for $150 so the groom could stand out in his ASU's. 

    I thought it was ridiculous that the bride was insisting the groomsmen "hide" their service for the sake of appearances - which is essentially what you're trying to do. 
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    PDKH said:
    cooper0314 said:
    I know this is more for the Military Bride forum, but there's no one there. So, I need some opinions.....Groom is in the Army, 2 years in, no deployments. Best man is in the Army as well. 2 other Groomsmen, including the Grooms brother ( 8 years navy, 4 deployments and a Navy seal) are in the Military as well. Groom is wearing his uniform and so is the Best Man. The other service members (including his brother) are asked to wear a Tux along with the non-military affiliated so that its not mix matched. Opinions? Cool or not cool.
    ASU's are only used for formal events. I think it's total BS that you're asking the Navy brother to wear a tux. ESPECIALLY because he already owns an incredibly expensive uniform, I think it would be nice if you aren't asking him to go drop $80+ on a tux rental. They should wear their uniforms proudly if they'd like to.

    Do you realize how similar Army and Navy dress blues are? The mix-matching wont matter in the slightest. 

    ETA: I'm marrying Army. I've seen tons of mixed uniforms at weddings. It looks fine. I know we'll have Army, AF, and Navy in our wedding party. 
    Thanks for your input ladies-especially PDKH. I need to clarify-this is not my wedding and/or my decision. This is my BIL's wedding. My husband is the Navy man. The entire situation irritates the living hell out of me. Once my BIL puts his uniform on, it becomes a military wedding and all service members should be recognized. I love him dearly, but he just began his career in the Army. His brother is a seasoned Vet. To me its rather disrespectful. But, what it came down to was the Bride not wanting it to be mismatched. Well see where this goes.....
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    itzMS said:
    All military should get the option for dress uniform. It will honestly not matter if the non-military groomsmen are in tuxes or suits while the other gentlemen wear dress uniform.

    Totally agree! We had mismatched dress uniforms at the kids's wedding. EVERYONE thought they looked sensational!
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    StageManager14 said:
    I don't think it's quite the horrible sin that everyone else does for a military member to decide not to incorporate the service in any way in their wedding, if that is what they choose (i.e. no one in uniform).  However, I think that having SOME in uniform and requesting others not be is shallow and stupid.  I feel the same way whenever I hear about a bride (or groom) who aren't in the military worrying about a guest wearing mess dress or the equivalent because they will "take away attention".  
    "I agree with Stage." Also, there are plenty of military personnel across all of the branches that serve their entire lives and never deploy. That should not play ANY role in this decision. I hope your FSIL/BIL recognizes this.
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    When I got married my crazy MIL threw a fit because my brother and my uncle ( both of whom stood for my H) we wearing their dress blues.  She said they were going to steal the spot light from me (she basically said anything she could to stop the wedding).  I told her there was no way in Hell that they would steal my thunder as I would be the one standing at the alter dressed in white.  I also told her I was proud of the military heritage of our family (it goes back generations, all branches save for Marines) and it was an honor to see them in their dress blues at my wedding nor would I deprive my mother or my grandmother the privilege of seeing their sons in their dress blues.  The rest of the non military guys were dressed in tux vests and black pants.  The pictures turned out beautiful.  Don't worry so much about appearances. 
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    ranzzo said:
    When I got married my crazy MIL threw a fit because my brother and my uncle ( both of whom stood for my H) we wearing their dress blues.  She said they were going to steal the spot light from me (she basically said anything she could to stop the wedding).  I told her there was no way in Hell that they would steal my thunder as I would be the one standing at the alter dressed in white.  I also told her I was proud of the military heritage of our family (it goes back generations, all branches save for Marines) and it was an honor to see them in their dress blues at my wedding nor would I deprive my mother or my grandmother the privilege of seeing their sons in their dress blues.  The rest of the non military guys were dressed in tux vests and black pants.  The pictures turned out beautiful.  Don't worry so much about appearances. 
    My father was on active duty in the Air Force when he and my mother were married, and he wore his dress uniform.  He and my mom look great in that picture.
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