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Do you have to have a MOH?

mtwomey1990mtwomey1990 member
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When I got engaged last year people told me to not pick my bridal party right away and I didn't listen, so I know that was my first mistake and most likely why I am in this mess in the first place. I picked my best friend of almost 10 years to be my MOH and last month we got into a fight and have barely spoken since. Now I am not saying that we won't patch it up but in the event that we don't and she decides to not be in the wedding, I really don't want to replace her. I feel it would be unfair to another BM that I pick and kind of like she was 2nd choice. Is it okay to just have all BMs and not have one singled out as the MOH? Again I know if was a big mistake to pick the bridal party right away but I really never in a million years imagined us not being friends anymore. any suggestions will be very appreciated.

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Re: Do you have to have a MOH?

  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    You absolutely don't have to have a MOH, and if you don't patch things up with yours before the wedding, you're absolutely right that it would be a bad idea to replace her- nobody wants to feel like a second choice.  It's totally okay to just have bridesmaids and not single anyone out.  (But I hope you patch things up with your friend, just because it sucks to be fighting with someone you care about.)
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I hope it works out between you and your friend.

    I won't be having a MOH. No big deal. I've always been very honored just to be a BM.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Both of my attendants were bridesmaids and neither was MOH. I hope things work out with your friend!
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    No, you don't have to have a MOH. Good luck with your friend. 
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  • ameraznhuneyameraznhuney member
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    You don't have to have a MOH.  Hopefully you guys will be able to talk this out, good luck!
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  • mtwomey1990mtwomey1990 member
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    Thanks everyone!
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  • mtwomey1990mtwomey1990 member
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    In case anyone is interested :-(

    It has become clear to me that she wants nothing to do with me or my wedding anymore. Very sad about losing a friendship. I have been asked by several people who will replace her and my answer is; no one. My wedding will not include my best friend of 10 years and I feel no reason to make someone feel like a runner-up. I will have 4 amazing BMs and am perfectly fine with that.

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