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Bridal party lopsidedness

kdaniels29kdaniels29 member
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I have two organizational type issues with my bridal party. First, we started off with 5 girls and 4 guys, I figured no big deal, I'll just have one guy take two girls on the way out. Now one of the guys who is in the Army is most likely being deployed and probably wont make it. Now its gonna look really lopsided....any suggestions for making it look as good as possible? Also, we haven't decided what to do with ushers. We could just have 2 groomsmen do double duty. FI does have one friend that I really think he should ask him to do SOMETHING (I think he should have been in the wedding party to begin with). I think he would make a good usher but then we need a second usher...we could pull one guy from the bridal party OR FI has suggested asking his uncle to do it. Would it be weird to have a twenty something usher and a fifty something usher? Seems weird to me...I'm trying to think of the best solutions to make the bridal party look as non-akaward as possible. Any thoughts would be helpful!
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Re: Bridal party lopsidedness

  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Don't worry about uneven sides it will look fine. You can even leave the Army buddy in the program so people know he was supposed to be there if that makes you feel better. No one will care about the uneven sides. Their eyes will be on you and your husband.

    The groomsmen don't really need to usher. People can find their seats on their own. PLEASE do not fill in the spot by asking someone new. That's not an honor and will not make that guy feel like part of the wedding.

    You're over thinking. No one really cares about the wedding party.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Uneven sides are fine. 


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  • kdaniels29kdaniels29 member
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    I know uneven sides are acceptable but what do you do about the recessional/ bridal party introductions. Have both groomsmen take 2 girls?? For the processional I'm just gonna have the girls walk in by themselves have the guys stand at the front from the beginning
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    Why can't they walk out by themselves too? One GM, one BM, one BM, one GM, etc?
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Ziti queen's idea would work just fine. Or yeah, have each guy take a BM on each arm. Either way will look just fine.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Or for their introduction, you could do the guys and then the girls. Just two groups- it will make the introductions faster anyway.
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  • kdaniels29kdaniels29 member
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    We have a couple groomsmen who are kinda awkward people, I don't think they'd enjoy having all solely on them. Plus the girls have something to hold (the bouquet) and therefore something to do with their hands. I think the guys would look unnatural without something to do with their hands.
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Two of the bridesmaids can also walk side-by-side. It's not a big deal. No one needs to be escorted.

     

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  • daveANDkristendaveANDkristen member
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    I don't think it will look awkward that the guys don't have anything in their hand.  Have them walk in alternating guy-girl order for the recessional.  For introductions, introduce the girls as a group and the guys as a group.  That's what we did.  The BM and GM are not couples, so no need to pair them off.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    I had 6 BM and H had 3 GM.  My youngest BM, was my neice who was 9 at the time.  She walked with my nephew the RB.  Then each GM walked with one BM and the last two BM walked out together side by side.  You can really do anything! 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    itzMS said:

    Two of the bridesmaids can also walk side-by-side. It's not a big deal. No one needs to be escorted.

     

    This.  We had 4 ladies and 2 guys.  The last two BMs walked out next to each other.  They didn't make out or anything.  
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  • Amy&BertAmy&Bert member
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    I've posted this elsewhere, but I think it's worth repeating. I was a bridesmaid last year and there were 2 groomsmen but 4 bridesmaids. The guys waited up front with the groom and the women processed in before the bride. As we processed out, one groomsman walked between two bridesmaids. It worked fine, so I wouldn't worry about it.

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