Would you send wedding annoucements in this situation?

ginadog · August 2012

Went from a DW wedding of immediate family and close friends to an elopement. I think there are some people on here who may remember the story of our wedding.

I have received one wedding announcement in my life; a cousin who married again with just immediate family.

If I did do this, I'd want to use a professional photo. It looks like from the photographer's FB page she can turn around a few images in a week at least, probably not the whole DVD product but I've been stalking her page. We'll be back in the States a week after the wedding, and I'd just do a Shutterfly thing. Internet access will be limited while on the trip. I honestly don't get the whole "send immediately, or the day of the wedding!" idea. And if that's required then I guess I can skip it all together.

Or just make a photo album. When I fly home for Christmas, I can share photos with non-Facebook friends and relatives, if I even see them.

Except everyone I'd want to share it with isn't in one place/state.

Meegles4 · August 2012

mmmm, I'm not sure, but I think I probably wouldn't do announcements, or if I did, maybe just to immediate family. But that's probably because I'd feel weird about calling attention to an event that the people receiving the announcement weren't invited to. I know it's an elopement, but still. That's just me though.

I do think that the idea of bringing the photo album with you to some family events is a good idea. I also think that if friends want to see wedding pictures, they'll ask directly, so you might get some of those folks who aren't on FB asking to see some.

ginadog · August 2012

We didn't reschedule the wedding with guests because my whole family told me up front that they would not be able to travel any longer for a wedding, so I thought what is the point in having a wedding with guests if my own family couldn't even be there. It is an elopement by default (I am happy about it now).

I am guessing the former guests are wondering what we all decided to with the wedding, or maybe they aren't wondering.

Avion22 · August 2012

My first wedding was immediate family only (following a big wedding that was cancelled after invitations were sent out). We kept the wedding quiet from those who weren't invited, but we did send announcements out to those people (aunts, uncles, cousins, and VERY close friends, but not the entire former guest list).

If you do announcements, send them out immediately. Don't wait for professional photos. You can use an engagement photo if you have one handy. Announcements should be sent out either the same day as the wedding or the first working day following (Monday if you get married on Saturday).

ginadog · August 2012

I don't have engagement photos. We're getting those done in September now. Well obviously they aren't engagements anymore. We'll call them family portraits now for lack of a better term. Everything is just really out of order and messed up.

I cannot comprehend a wedding annoucement without a real wedding photo though. It wouldn't make sense, and just vergabe is, well, blah.

But if that's etiquette, I guess I'll just forget the whole idea.

ski2play · August 2012

ginadog, In your situation I would send out announcements.

How are you doing?

cbvcru67 · August 2012

Gina

In your situation, I would go ahead and send announcements. Anyone invited would remember why the wedding didn't happen as planned and wouldn't be surprised to hear you had eloped. In that case, I'd think the announcement would be a nice way to share the day.

Traditionally, announcements are sent very soon after the wedding. In your case, since people would probably know you are leaving to get married, I would think the sooner the better (the idea being, you want to announce the news to them personally rather than people hearing it through the grapevine).

If I were you, I'd have the regular plain announcements printed and addressed before we left, print a non-pro photo at walgreens or something right when we get back, slip into already ready envelopes and hit the mailbox with them asap.

HockeyFan4 · August 2012

Gina,
In your situation I would go ahead and send an announcement with a photo.

ginadog · August 2012

Thanks for all the viewpoints, from all sides!

Previously, I didn't understand the theory behind sending them ASAP, but now I get it - to be the first one to share the news, not through the grapevine (mentioned by cbvcru67). It really helps when people put the reasons behind these rules (for me at least). However, I won't be in a race to make sure friends/family hear it from me first.

However, what is the theory behind no photo on an annoucement?

To me it's like sending a birth annoucement without a photo, kind of lacking!

DramaGeek · August 2012

I agree - I'm not normally a fan of wedding announcements but in the case of an elopement I think it's appropriate, and even more so given the circumstances of your wedding.

Also, ditto Jesse - I cannot freakin' wait to see your photos!

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