Well, not everyone
but I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I discussed this with my two older, married sisters but they aren't overly etiquette savvy so, while I value their opinions I don't necessarily know that they are right.
My dad, my BIL and my grandfather have all expressed that they would like to give me away. I really really just want to walk alone.
I have always wanted my grandmother to walk me down the aisle. She raised me and my sisters and there has never been anyone more dear to my heart. Unfortunately, she passed away this past year.
Both my parents stepped in and out of my life as it pleased their drug habits while I was growing up. This is why I do not want my father to walk with me. Despite his past I was a bit of a daddy's girl and (provided he is still sober at the time of my wedding) want him to attend as a guest.
After my grandmother died my BIL offered to walk with me. I thought this was sweet as we're very close but I declined. Not only had I already decided to walk alone, but I didn't want to hurt my dad's feelings as silly as that may seem.
Here comes the real question.
My grandfather called me today solely to ask who was walking me down the aisle. I was so floored by this I responded that I didn't know yet. I know he wanted me to ask him but honestly the idea had never crossed my mind. At. All.
I know he means well but my mothers parents were always pretty distance growing up. They are more "buy your love" type of people. They have offered FI and I the amazing gift of paying for most of our wedding. We could not be more appreciative. But I still feel like if anyone gives me away it should have been my grandmother. And since she can't I'd rather walk alone.
Now, I know he who pays has the say. Does this apply to walking down the aisle? Would it be out of line for me decline and say I'd just like to walk myself?
Or do I just have to get over it and let him walk with me?
ETA: I hope this doesn't get me scolded for being ignorant... "/