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Something special for step siblings?

My fiance has two younger step-siblings that we do not talk to or see often. We decided that we would not have them in our wedding party as there was other people that we wanted to ask. I think this really hurt my fiances step mom as she was expecting them to have a role in our wedding. A few months ago she had as me if we at least had flowers ordered for them as they are his step siblings. I said no, we only had them ordered for the wedding party, parents and grandparents. We're having a hard time with this because we feel that the flowers signify being in the wedding party. Does anyone have any suggestions on something we can do or give to my fiance's step-siblings to make them feel special or is my fiance's step-mom out of line by asking/expecting us to do these things? If all else fails, we will probably just end up getting them flowers to make his step-mom happy, but I want to see if anyone else has any suggestions. Thank you!!

Re: Something special for step siblings?

  • I think it was weird for her to ask about flowers, though I think it's harmless if it keeps her happy. Would you consider having them doing a reading? Readings & WP (and guest!) are the only 'roles' that exist. Everything else is made up and crap. 
  • edited June 2013
    You should leave it up to your fi to decide if he wants to get corsages/bouts for his step-siblings. The parents and grandparents aren't actually in the wedding party. Corsages are given to them because they are either hosts or honored guests. Sometimes, not always, siblings are given corsages. To me, it would be worth the cost of a few corsages to avoid hurt feelings, but it would annoy me that SM asked. She was rude to bring it up.

    ETA - I agree with @RetreadBride that it's probably the SM not the siblings who are worried about this.

                       
  • I would get them corsages. I would also invite them to the bridal luncheon & tell them how happy you are to be joining their family.
  • aefowler said:
    I would get them corsages. I would also invite them to the bridal luncheon & tell them how happy you are to be joining their family.
    I would only do this if it's true.  I would not get them corsages or invite them to the bridal luncheon if you are not close to them.
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