I do not usually post over here since I got married a while ago but I'm a MOH in my friend's wedding in a few months. Her shower and b-party are in three weeks and I along with the other 4 BMs have been feverishly planning both events. Throughout the discussions I've mentioned budget. I've invited people to privately talk with me if they had concerns about the budget and one BM did so... I brought it to everyone and they agreed that was a fair budget for each of us. Flash forward to now. One of the BM's just messaged me and said that she is rethinking this all and won't spend more than half of what we agreed upon as our budget. She still wants to be an equal part of everything including the gift but she doesn't want to chip in for all of it.
This causes a major problem because it means that other BM's have to pick up the slack and potentially go over their budget and it in reality it means that I am going to have to pay a lot more. I am already paying a major portion of the shower and b-party... as MOH I believe that's my duty... but this is going to really go above and beyond that and I don't feel financially comfortable about that.
The shower is not outrageous. It's actually one of the cheapest I've ever planned because it is at a private location and not a restaurant. We aren't going overboard for the gift or food either.
What do I do???? (added note- this BM is the sister of the groom and is a notorious PITA... I will not go to the bride about this but I need to figure this out quickly!)
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