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Order of Bridal Party

lallerton16lallerton16 member
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Any advice on how to put the wedding party in order without offending anyone? I can't really do height order because we have a few couples in the party that I will put together to walk up and down the aisle. But I don't want to offend anyone by putting them last. I'm really having the most trouble with the order on the program. How did you guys handle this? (I have 7 girls, 2 MOH and 5BM, just the BM I'm having trouble with). 
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I can't even tell you where I've stood in order the last five times I've been a BM without pulling up pixtures. I never assumed that we were lined up by order of importance. Just do it as you see fit.

    If anyone asks why the order is the way it is (which would be weird of them) just say beyond pairing up the couples, you did it randomly. Or If you want, dont even decide on an order until you get to the rehearsal (if you're having one). Then just tell everyone who they are paired up with and let them line up as they will.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Mine were in alphabetical order.  I didn't plan it, but they saw that I listed them that way in the program and lined themselves up that way.

    You can really just let them line themselves up at the rehearsal, but if you insist on planning it, choose something arbitrary.  The order of importance and such is really insulting.  
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't see what it matters or why anybody would give a damn.


    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • vk2204vk2204 member
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    We had a larger BP; I had 8 girls total. The first four were my family members, then for the rest I had who they were closest to next to each other - two are twins and two are good friends so it worked out. They are all important to you so it shouldn't matter where they stand.

    They stayed like that only for walking down the aisle. There was no order when it came time for pictures either.

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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    This is something sometimes I feel people over think. As PP have said if you must choose a way ahead of time do it with something arbitrary.

    For example my friend's wedding last year had us in orange dresses that were from different designers so they were all a differnt shade some were almost a burnt orange, one was a BRIGHT orange and mine was almost a coral! She base the order on the shade of our dresses so it flowed nicely.

    My girls are wearing the same color but all have different necklines so I based the order off necklines... I felt I need to know ahead of time because my youngest step sister is legally blind (and has never been to an "American Wedding". They are Cambodian and I had the honor of being in my oldest stepsister's traditonal Cambodian Wedding two years ago, and they are quite different. Also she lost her site at the age of 13 - 6 years ago and is still learning to cope) so neadless to say she is very nervous. I want to make sure she is placed so she can follow another bridemaid (the bright blue dresses she will be able ot make out) and pair her up with a more patient groomsmen.... all the while not making a big deal out of it for her.

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Ours lined themselves up in some sort of order. Or maybe my DoC did the order. I have no clue.

    Since they didn't know each other, we did "pair up" the bridesmaids and groomsmen to let them know who their "walking buddy" would be...but if they would have switched...we wouldn't have cared.

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  • clueclaw.defunct635777689035314155clueclaw.defunct635777689035314155 member
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    I understand where you are coming from. The first wedding I was a bridesmaids in, I was "last". I didn't think anything of it. However, I was just taking with the bride and man of honor, (not about the order) when she told the planner did it wrong on the program and I was put in the wrong spot. So the man of honor told me to know in my heart I wasn't the "maid of shame" or something like that.

    I honestly didn't think anything til they said something. I think there are some people who think it is an order of importance, so I see why you are concerned. However, I think most people dont think that.

    Just say it is random. That is how my FI and I planned it. We paired the couples with who we thought they would be comfortable with and then just put them in a random order. (it really isn't official actually, we were just talking).

    Another friend of mine who got married, paired me with the groomsman who shared my unisex name. She thought it was funny.
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    My BM all chose their own dresses so I'm just mixing them up so the strapless aren't right by each other and the satin dresses aren't side by side, etc...so it's basically random.  And I guess reverse alphabetical order... And coincidentally it also happens to be by height as well.  Both of those were totally unintentional though. :)
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