Dear Prudence,
My partner and I recently got engaged and have begun the wedding
planning. While we both agree that we would prefer a low-key,
inexpensive event, some amount of money is still going to be spent, and
we are having trouble raising the funds on our own. I know that it is
typical for the father of the bride to pay for the majority of the
expenses, but being that there is no bride, this makes things more
difficult. My fiancé’s parents are well off and very supportive, but my
own parents, especially my father, are not as well off. My question is:
How do I go about asking either parent for financial support for this
wedding? If I want this wedding to go the way I'd like, I need some type
of financial aid. Gay marriage is fairly new, so there doesn't seem to
be any precedent set for this.
—Overwhelmed Grooms-to-Be