Trying to avoid a seating chart :/

Re: Trying to avoid a seating chart :/

• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2013

  I plan on making reserved signs for our families, but I'm probably only going to reserve 2 tables. Whoever wants to sit at those tables can, but I'm planning on spreading by word-of-mouth that those are intended for our immediate families/family members who might not want to walk up and down the two steps to get to the food stations. 

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• SewInLoveWithDMB member

  

  July 2013

  I would either do all or nothing - as in all assigned by tables or all open. Having a tiered guest system isn't the best idea in my eyes.

  
  

  If I were a first cousin - I wouldn't know if I was special enough to be reserved or not. I might go and sit thinking I was (and take great aunt's seat) Or, I wouldn't for fear of it being awkward and then the reserved tables could stay partially empty.

  
  

  Not having a seating chart is totally fine - but I don't think I would make special arrangements for some and not others. And I know you mean parents and grandparents, but heck, they might even want to mingle and sit with relatives they haven't seen in a while. 

  
  

  Just my thoughts...

  
  
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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2013

  SewInLoveWithDMB said:

  I would either do all or nothing - as in all assigned by tables or all open. Having a tiered guest system isn't the best idea in my eyes.

  
  

  If I were a first cousin - I wouldn't know if I was special enough to be reserved or not. I might go and sit thinking I was (and take great aunt's seat) Or, I wouldn't for fear of it being awkward and then the reserved tables could stay partially empty.

  
  

  Not having a seating chart is totally fine - but I don't think I would make special arrangements for some and not others. And I know you mean parents and grandparents, but heck, they might even want to mingle and sit with relatives they haven't seen in a while. 

  
  

  Just my thoughts...

  I imagine that my mom won't sit down all night, and I have a feeling that people will just end up sitting all over - which is totally fine. The only reason I'm even considering the 2 tables is because one of his aunts has MS, and can't do stairs, so I want to make sure there's a place for her. And if my grandfathers are able to make it, they can't do stairs either. (nope, not even 2.) If other people sit there, fine by me, it's not a huge deal. I just want to make sure they know (and my guests know) that there are seats nearer the dance floor for them so they can see and don't have to move if they don't want.

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• Stina51286 member

  

  July 2013

  I've never been to a wedding where there wasn't reserved seating for parents and siblings not in the wedding. We will be doing reserved seating for immediate family and then everyone else is sit where you please.

   

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• jenphotochick member

  

  July 2013

  We will be doing 2 tables at ceremony and reception for reserved seating its not much but again if my parents or fi sister/dad/gma are helping clean up the ceremony site real quick we don't want them to lose a seat and have to sit in the back for dinner.

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• SwimGuppy member

  

  July 2013

  Just as the front two rows of the ceremony are considered reserved for immediate family, with or without signs, I think it's perfectly fine to have some tables reserved. By the very nature of a wedding, some guests are "more special" than others - that's why we put them in funny outfits and give them corsages. Have the parents spread the word to those that may need the special arrangements. I was at a wedding where we had to (happily) vacate our table mid-meal (open seating) so the grandparents of the bride could sit down. Not ideal for Nana.

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• bluebuckeye84 member

  

  July 2013

  Since all of our wedding party is pretty much already married, we are doing a Sweetheart table so that our wedding party can enjoy their dinner with their significant other. Because of this we are reserving 2 tables for them and also a table for both sets of our parents and grandparents. There will be a sign on the table that says "Reserved for wedding party". I do not find this rude as it is no different than having a head table and it also allows our wedding party to sit with their date. I can't imagine anyone being offended by this. Other than that it is open seating. We only have 100 guests and they are all adult enough to choose their own seat and get along with everyone. I do not see the need to choose their seat for them. I am a teacher...I do enough of that

  

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• EmilyTork member

  

  July 2013

  Yeah, not trying to single out "important" guests, but whether it's rude or not we all have those VIPs. 

  
  

  I think in order to avoid drama I might just do table numbers (more work, more $$! gah). There wouldn't necessarily be drama with my side, but FMIL is very, "look at me, I'm special and hate my ex-H!! So I could make sure to seat them on opposite sides of the room. Or I could be a bit evil and seat them at the same table

  

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• schellzinator member

  

  July 2013

  @emilytork - I think that's a great compromise. Check with your venue to see if they already have table numbers and you can purchase foam board from staples and glue the listings of assigned table numbers to the foam board...

  

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