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Bridesmaids

futurehr1104futurehr1104 member
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In need of some advice.... I'm engaged and my fiancé and I have been trying to come up with our wedding party. So far I have asked my sister and my cousin who are both of my best friends, a friend that i went to high school and college with, and my fiancé's twin brother's girlfriend since we spend a lot of time together.( they have been together for 5 years and are soon to be engaged also so she isn't just a random girlfriend she's more like a sister) After I asked my fiancé's twin's girlfriend, my fiancé's sister got upset that I didn't ask her. I like her but she is older and I don't see or talk to her that much. Also if I ask her to be in it then I would feel obligated to also ask my fiancé's brother's wife too because she would be the only one left out. In their weddings they asked all of the siblings/siblings partners to be in the wedding and paired them up. If I do this I will end up with 6 or 7 bridesmaids and I'm not sure If I want to have that many. I don't want to make anyone feel left out but I don't want to ask everyone just because I feel bad. My fiancé's mom said to do what we want but would it really hurt to have a couple extra people. Anyone have similar experiences or advice?
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  • BangBangs39BangBangs39
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    It is 100% your decision who you want in your WP. You should only ask those who you really want standing next to you. Don't ask people out of guilt because then it is apparent that this is why you asked.
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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    edited July 2013

    Ask who you want to be in the party but don't feel that 6-7 is too many! Also think about the future, these people will be in your life forever as they are your fiance's immediate family.

     

    ETA: I wish I had asked my fiance's brother's wife. At the time we were not as close, but as our wedding date gets closer and closer she has been a great friend and I look forward to being sisters and aunts to each other's children!

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    You should never have to think, or hem and haw, about who to have in your wedding party. It should be a no brainer b/c they should be your nearest and dearest. Never ask people out of obligation. 


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  • mrsB68mrsB68
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    I wouldn't ask her to be a part of the WP if that wasn't your initial thought. Can you give her another role that would let her feel included? For example, read a poem or spread petals before you walk down the aisle?
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If your FSILs are not people you consider your "nearest and dearest," then they don't belong in your wedding party regardless of who it would or wouldn't hurt.  Avoiding hurt feelings is not a good basis for choosing someone, because it usually comes back to bite you.
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