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how do i word this - mother's ex?

ohmenaohmena
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My Mam's ex fiancé is hosting and paying for our wedding. (He is no3 or what is currently 5) 
They never got married but were together from when I was 12 to about 15. He has remained in my life and is a wonderful man.
We are having a traditional wedding, so are fine with traditional/formal wording of an invite. 

But how do I word it?
What am I?
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Re: how do i word this - mother's ex?

  • ohmenaohmena
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    CMGr said:
    Mr. John MomsExFI
    requests the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Miss Bride's Full Name
    to
    Mr. Groom's Full Name
    Date
    Time
    Place
    Address
    City, State

    Anyone can host your wedding.  They do not need to be a relative.
    @CMGr am I being silly to think that somehow having that isn't enough? That I can't put daughter/step daughter because that isn't what I am ( anymore) but that not putting anything seems rather cold. Or am I just being ridiculous?
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    ohmena said:


    CMGr said:

    Mr. John MomsExFI
    requests the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Miss Bride's Full Name
    to
    Mr. Groom's Full Name
    Date
    Time
    Place
    Address
    City, State

    Anyone can host your wedding.  They do not need to be a relative.

    @CMGr am I being silly to think that somehow having that isn't enough? That I can't put daughter/step daughter because that isn't what I am ( anymore) but that not putting anything seems rather cold. Or am I just being ridiculous?

    What CMGr has suggested is proper wording; it is to the point, but not cold. I think it would look really odd if you put something like "at the marriage of his former FI's daughter" and I'm not sure how else to describe the relationship.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Being listed as the host on a wedding invitation isn't an "honor."  The people "honored" by invitations are the guests, not the persons being married or requesting the "honour of your presence" or the "pleasure of your company."  Their relationship to the bride or groom doesn't have to be defined.
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  • ohmenaohmena
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    I don't doubt (for a second) that the wording you gave is correct @CMGr

    CMGr said:
     To try and make up some relationship is inappropriate.....He is your friend.
    this I find hurtful and upsetting and actually disrespectful of the relationship I have with him. He is the nearest thing to a true father I have. He cared when he first met my mother (unlike others) and continued to care afterwards. He was there when I passed my driving test, finished high school. He was at my graduations (once flying halfway back round the world to be there). He was the person FI was nervous to meet. He's picked me up at 2 in the morning when I was stuck, he held me when I've cried. He's been at the end of the phone where ever he may be. He is the person that my future children will call Gramps. (I don't even call him by his name)
    We know that legally we have no relationship. But to say he is a friend? 
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    ohmena said:
    I don't doubt (for a second) that the wording you gave is correct @CMGr

    CMGr said:
     To try and make up some relationship is inappropriate.....He is your friend.
    this I find hurtful and upsetting and actually disrespectful of the relationship I have with him. He is the nearest thing to a true father I have. He cared when he first met my mother (unlike others) and continued to care afterwards. He was there when I passed my driving test, finished high school. He was at my graduations (once flying halfway back round the world to be there). He was the person FI was nervous to meet. He's picked me up at 2 in the morning when I was stuck, he held me when I've cried. He's been at the end of the phone where ever he may be. He is the person that my future children will call Gramps. (I don't even call him by his name)
    We know that legally we have no relationship. But to say he is a friend? 
    No one was trying to be hurtful or disrespectful.  Nowhere in your OP did you indicate that you think of him as a father.  All you said is that he has remained part of your life and is a wonderful man.  We can only post based on the information you provide, so don't get offended we didn't realize he was like a father to you when you didn't say that.  I'm glad that you have such a wonderful father figure in your life who is hosting your wedding!
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  • ohmenaohmena
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    libby2483 said:
    ohmena said:
    I don't doubt (for a second) that the wording you gave is correct @CMGr

    CMGr said:
     To try and make up some relationship is inappropriate.....He is your friend.
    this I find hurtful and upsetting and actually disrespectful of the relationship I have with him. He is the nearest thing to a true father I have. He cared when he first met my mother (unlike others) and continued to care afterwards. He was there when I passed my driving test, finished high school. He was at my graduations (once flying halfway back round the world to be there). He was the person FI was nervous to meet. He's picked me up at 2 in the morning when I was stuck, he held me when I've cried. He's been at the end of the phone where ever he may be. He is the person that my future children will call Gramps. (I don't even call him by his name)
    We know that legally we have no relationship. But to say he is a friend? 
    No one was trying to be hurtful or disrespectful.  Nowhere in your OP did you indicate that you think of him as a father.  All you said is that he has remained part of your life and is a wonderful man.  We can only post based on the information you provide, so don't get offended we didn't realize he was like a father to you when you didn't say that.  I'm glad that you have such a wonderful father figure in your life who is hosting your wedding!
    Fair enough Libby. (Guess I just get a bit edgy when people say that he isn't enough of something) not that it was happening here.) My bad. 
    I didn't know what to call him (especially in this question). Can't use step daughter as I'm not and if I use father people think he is my biodad.
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