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How involved is too much?

justifyme143justifyme143 member
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in October 2013 Weddings
So I want to keep everyone up to date with the latest plans so no one feels left out.  I do not want to have to plan my wedding in secret.  I am finding it hard to get input from some people and turn others individuals off about my wedding plans.    I guess I just want approvals and vetoes on my selections, and that is it.  How do I keep some from crossing the, "too much opinion" line nicely?  I do not want to lose my voice about my own wedding!   How is everyone keeping others informed, up to date, and involved with out getting caught in the over enthused ambush?   Is there a trick??  
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Re: How involved is too much?

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited July 2013
    I second @cooper15.

    @justifyme143, can you do an intro post, please? We'd love to get to know you a little better!

    ETA: Just noticed a few posts in June 2014 boards, are you getting married in 3 months or 11?
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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    I found it best to just not talk about wedding. Most people honestly don't care about my wedding all that much. I'll give some details if they ask specific questions, but say "things are going well!" quite often when asked in general.

    As for asking opinions with close relatives - I do ask and see what they like and suggest - but final decision is up to FI and I. Fortunately, there is nothing we have chosen that has given us any response other than "Oh, that's nice!" so it has been easy to plan.

    Are your ideas really out there, or do the others have strong opinions? There are times that someone may buck what you suggest, but it could be for good reason.

    You need to think about each detail and decide what is best for you and FI...and your guests! 
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  • justifyme143justifyme143 member
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    I guess the issue is that my fiance and I both come from split families so its us and four other groups of people paying.   I feel like I am loosing my voice. I do not want anyone to feel like we are favoring others.  I want everyone to feel involved but I guess there is a line between having an input and trying to run things.

    ( I do apologize in posting in this group.   my computer went a little crazy and I have no clue how it got here.  It was suppose to be under June 2014.  I thought it got deleted so I postedone over there.)  SMH.   
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  • justifyme143justifyme143 member
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      Im getting married June 21 2014.   Im sorry for any confusion. @ Lplions

    I never thought about using text messages.  Thank you!   Its more or less overly strong options. Mainly from his mother and my family.   He is the only child so his mother is trying to be VERY involved.  My family feels its their wedding to plan.   Its more or less I need to know how to keep them from feeling left out without blowing them off.  @ cooper
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Well, congrats on your wedding. Best of luck with your planning!
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  • justifyme143justifyme143 member
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    Thank you! @lplions

    Thank you! I feel like tine is flying! @snippet17

    I dont know if anyone can handle his mother.   Maybe a lion tamer but hes going to need the chair and the whip!  My family and I are going to have to talk about this.   I think my Fi needs to step up and stand firm.   He has a, "you run the show" attitude and its hard to handle it all!    Thank you for your advise!  @coopergirl15
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