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Bridesmaids on budgets

kar8573kar8573
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Is it rude for the bride to expect the bridesmaids to get their hair, nails, and make up done at a very expensive spa when we have budgets and is it okay for the bride to also expect the bridesmaids to pay for an expensive bachelorette party getaway when we all have bills and stuff to pay?
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  • efmcc67efmcc67 member
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    Yes, it is rude. Brides should ask their BMs for their budget for dresses, and pick a dress within the lowest budget. If she requires anything else (hair, accessories, etc.), she should pay for them. Bachelorette parties are optional. The bride should not plan it herself, and she cannot force anyone to pay for it.

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  • Peaseblossom55Peaseblossom55 mod
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    Wow that is a lot if she is requiring it she should be paying.  She also should not be planning her own parties.  I would decline and get my hair done elsewhere.

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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    kar8573 said:
    Is it rude for the bride to expect the bridesmaids to get their hair, nails, and make up done at a very expensive spa when we have budgets and is it okay for the bride to also expect the bridesmaids to pay for an expensive bachelorette party getaway when we all have bills and stuff to pay?
    Is this bride requiring the hair and makeup? If so, she must pay for it herself. The bride should not be hosting and/or making specific requests for her bachelorette party. 
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  • kar8573kar8573
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    She wants it done at the resort and spa where the wedding is taking place....and yes...hair...nails...and make up.  The cost for all three is $320.00 without tip.
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    kar8573 said:
    She wants it done at the resort and spa where the wedding is taking place....and yes...hair...nails...and make up.  The cost for all three is $320.00 without tip.
    Wow, that is pricey! I would tell her that getting it done at the salon is out of your budget, and that you will be getting it done elsewhere (or doing it yourself, or not doing it at all, etc.)  If she has a problem with this, she is a bridezilla.  If she wants the BMs to get it done at this pricey salon, she needs to pony up the cash for it. 
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Then you tell her that while you'd love to get ready with her, the spa she is demanding is out of your budget. 

    I agree with Libby. If she's nasty about your budget, she's being a jerk of a friend and needs a reality check. 
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  • annathy03annathy03 member
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    Like PPs have said, you should not have to spend that $ on hair and makeup. If she wants everyone to get that done professionally she should be the one to pay for it, and it is completely reasonable to tell her you won't be able to do that. And a bachelorette party does not need to be an out of town escapade. They are optional to begin with, and I've been to some really fun ones where we got the bride a sash and veil and just went bar hopping.
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  • buddysmom80buddysmom80 member
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    No way would I pay $320 for full hair and makeup! If the bride wants to pay for it, then that's fine. I'm on the same boat as you. I don't have a ton of extra money after bills are paid and money is put away. I don't have CC debt and was given a suggestion by a BM in a wedding that I'm in to "just put it on your CC, stop being so cheap". Um, no. Long story short, just say no. Just get your dres and show up to the wedding. Good luck!

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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    If she's being this inconsiderate and obnoxious, tell her that you seem to have food poisoning scheduled on her wedding day, and are terribly sorry but can't make it.

    Then enjoy not having an inconsiderate and obnoxious person in your life anymore.
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